100 Quotes About Healing The Past

It isn’t violence that can break through our hearts. It isn’t force that binds us and keeps us together. Only tenderness has the power to accomplish what the fullness of love desires to do. Tenderness that approaches us little by little, and handles our feelings with the deepest affection and delight. Tenderness that is willing to wait for the right time until we are ready and we are no longer afraid. Jocelyn Soriano

Even the smallest shift in perspective can bring about the greatest healing. Joshua Kai

Psychoanalysis is often about turning our ghosts into ancestors, even for patients who have not lost loved ones to death. We are often haunted by important relationships from the past that influence us unconsciously in the present. As we work them through, they go from haunting us to becoming simply part of our history. Norman Doidge

You didn’t just automatically become a Christian, did you? You weren’t made a Christian by just going to church. Just like you are not made a car by sitting in a garage all day! You have to make a decision. Corallie Buchanan

Spirituality isn't some quaint stepchild of an intelligent worldview, or the only option for those of us not smart enough to understand the facts of the real world. Spirituality reflects the most sophisticated mindset, and the most powerful force available for the transformation of human suffering. Marianne Williamson

You must have thought more times than you realized "it will hurt". You should know it may. Okay. It may hurt immensely to open you up in your safe, dark space, sporadic light and chaotic air hitting you unlike anything you have known. Sometimes it will feel impossible to swallow. Because finding your way back to you involves telling the truth about oneself while pushing through a field of trees that are all whispering different tones of you. Thaiia Senquetta

Don’t hide your hurt, beautiful soul. Grab a hold of it. Run it through the purifying flame of your heart and mold it into something beautiful. Allow the depths of your pain to expand the breadth of your compassion. Gather up your stumbling stones and build a bridge for someone else. Remember what it’s like to be lost in darkness so you can be someone else’s much needed light. Don’t deny your pain or bury it away. Let it rise to the surface. And then transform it into something that makes it worthwhile. Cristen Rodgers

Don’t feel bad about feeling bad. Don’t be frightened of feeling afraid. Don’t be angry about getting angry. There is no need to give up when we are feeling depressed. Nor should we be dismayed at the grief which often accompanies the outgrowing of anything which needs outgrowing. We can be glad that our soul is speaking to us and pushing us onwards. We frequently need to persevere with a period of inner turmoil before the dust can settle and be swept out the door. . Donna Goddard

If you're still holding the broken pieces of glass & excepting to heal. That won't happen. To heal you first need to drop those pieces. This is how in real life you need to learn the art of letting go things that prevent your heart & soul from healing. Ridhdhesh Jivawala

If you're still holding the broken pieces of glass & expecting to heal. That won't happen. To heal you first need to drop those pieces. This is how in real life you need to learn the art of letting go things that prevent your heart & soul from healing. Ridhdhesh Jivawala

Dare to be vulnerable, walk outside without your armor on and say YES to your heart. Alaric Hutchinson

Learn to observe your emotions without needing to act or distract yourself from them. Within that stillness your truest most vulnerable thoughts will arise and it is these thoughts that will show you where your healing work must begin. Alaric Hutchinson

But pain's like water. It finds a way to push through any seal. There's no way to stop it. Sometimes you have to let yourself sink inside of it before you can learn how to swim to the surface. Katie Kacvinsky

Temporary, but excruciating, pain is the price of healing. Vironika Tugaleva

When I'm triggered, I think, "This will last forever" or "What if this lasts forever?" I get thoughts about how I should give up, run away, hide, protect myself. These thoughts, I cannot change. What I can change is how I respond to them. Will I unconditionally believe these ideas, or will I accept them as side effects of the temporary experience of pain? Will I act on each thought that arises in the burning fire, or will I hold myself gently and say, "It'll be okay. I know it hurts. I love you"? My power lies in these choices. Vironika Tugaleva

Live BOLDLY! ......because no one ever told you healing is a life long process. Kierra C.T. Banks

Extreme emotional pain has a profound effect on the body. I witnessed my already frail body become even more toxic and plundered. Sharon E. Rainey

Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal. Vironika Tugaleva

I'd never known that I could feel this broken and whole at once. Rachel L. Schade

Pain and love cannot be in the same space. You can never love anyone in pain. You cannot truly love yourself in pain. The more pain you carry in your heart, the harder it becomes to love anyone including yourself. Kemi Sogunle

That sassy low classy, but dress real cheap-fly-n-fancy, with a chip on her shoulder -- she's just a bitterly wounded dove, wanting to be sieged by love. T.F. Hodge

You have divine grace to forgive. Lailah Gifty Akita

Embrace life with hope than despair. Lailah Gifty Akita

How odd that we spend so much time treating the darkness, and so little time seeking the light. The ego loves to glorify itself by self-analysis, yet we do not get rid of darkness by hitting it with a baseball bat. We only get rid of darkness by turning on the light. Marianne Williamson

You'll never cross an emotional bridge, if you keep rushing back to the other side. T.F. Hodge

When you forgive, it does not mean that you have submitted, it simply means that you have made a choice to stop bearing any grudge. Stephen Richards

You are the custodian of your own happiness. What other people say, do or think does not create a basis for your happiness. It is you who decides your own happiness, just like forgiveness. Stephen Richards

The heart is where the journey of forgiveness begins. Stephen Richards

Locking ourselves in the situation where we wish for sympathy and want to be looked at as the aggrieved party normally makes us powerless. Stephen Richards

The moment we become forgivers, then we are in line to enjoy the benefits of forgiveness. Stephen Richards

The idea of forgiveness is a journey that requires patience. If the journey of forgiveness is well travelled, there is a chance that we are bound to change in a very helpful way. Stephen Richards

Sometimes we are very convinced that what we went through needs to be re-lived so we end up going back and forth to the demons of the past and eventually we fail to get over them. Stephen Richards

Forgiveness does not change the past, that’s for sure, but it does change the future. Stephen Richards

The minute we put aside our self-righteousness and move away from being the aggrieved, then we are on a healing process. Stephen Richards

The only thing that will make us remain glued to being the victim is our failure to handle the emotions that we go through and the pain that overcomes us. Stephen Richards

When you make up your mind to forgive, your happiness will almost automatically follow. Stephen Richards

In an unforgiving world, chaos rules. Stephen Richards

When you forgive, you immerse yourself in healing waters. Stephen Richards

When you forgive, you are freed from some of the feelings of disapproval and it can contribute to lessening your negative thoughts. Stephen Richards

Offer yourself forgiveness as a gift. The word ‘give’ is the basic keyword in the word forgiveness, therefore it relays a meaning therein. Stephen Richards

The same zeal and guts with which you were persistent not to forgive is the same zeal and enthusiasm with which you should be able to open up a new relationship with your partner, loved one or friend, one that is founded on commitment and dedication. Stephen Richards

Your forgiveness or failure to forgive simply takes you nearer or further away from your ultimate goal. There are no two ways to deal with it, there is only one. Stephen Richards

Blaming other people inevitably makes us blame ourselves because if we are pointing the finger at someone, practically, we are pointing it at ourselves as well. Stephen Richards

We are often so convinced that we are so hurt and in pain, so much so that we opt not to forgive. Yet, as a consequence, that is what will make you weak! Stephen Richards

Just because you have been through a bad experience does not give you the ticket to keep going back to that situation over and over again and dramatizing it out of proportion. Stephen Richards

Overly playing the role of the victim can debar you from accepting responsibility for your actions and emotions. Stephen Richards

Being joyous or happy is not something you should feel guilty about. Stephen Richards

The idea of always wanting to be the victim in circumstances where you have been offended is a common human trait. Each person wants to be viewed as the aggrieved party. Stephen Richards

Do the forgiveness and carry on going forward. Leave the worrying to the other person. Eat what is on your plate and leave the rest to them. Stephen Richards

In the process of forgiveness, you can only control your own actions and decisions. Stephen Richards

The purpose of forgiveness is not to make sure that someone ends up changing into what you expect them to be, as this is dominance. The purpose is actually to make your own life better, more worthy and less stressful. Forgiveness reduces the hold that the wrongdoer has over you and empowers you. Stephen Richards

Assuming you are still lost in thought about when exactly you should forgive someone, well the time is NOW. Stephen Richards

Distancing yourself from some painful event is probably the ignition for the process of forgiveness. Stephen Richards

Failing to forgive yourself for certain wrongs you committed in the past can create self-dislike. Stephen Richards

Other people may well not find it relevant that you have forgiven yourself, but you need to know that it is not for them anyway. Everything at the moment is wholly about you. Stephen Richards

A broken and mended relationship turns out to be stronger than one that has never been broken, almost like how bones can become even stronger once broken and then healed. Stephen Richards

Take a walk through the garden of forgiveness and pick a flower of forgiveness for everything you have ever done. Stephen Richards

You are simply naturally inclined to make mistakes just as everyone else is, whether male or female, black or white, young or old. These mistakes are your school of learning, therefore forgiveness is your greatest teacher in this school of learning. Stephen Richards

Forgiveness is not simply a single act, it is a full process. Stephen Richards

If there ever was someone who had a control over you, someone who could cause you the greatest pain, someone who could ignore your most necessary requirements and someone for whom forgiveness were truly difficult to render, that person is none other than YOU. Stephen Richards

All the resentment that lies in your heart is simply causing damage to you mostly. Stephen Richards

Just because someone wakes up one morning and says, “Today I am going to be rich, ” does not automatically make them rich. So the same is true with forgiveness, it has to come from the heart with meaning, that is when it works best. Stephen Richards

The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness. Stephen Richards

If we studied the issue of forgiveness with a wider perspective, we are bound to opt for it after all. Stephen Richards

Forgiveness does carry with it numerous obstacles and one may well be surprised why many people find it a very difficult hurdle to jump over. Stephen Richards

The most basic method one can use to let go of the past is by looking at it as a learning experience. Stephen Richards

Do not be deceived that you are weak because you have forgiven; instead be rest assured that you are now showing great strength - after all, forgiving is one of the most difficult things to do. Stephen Richards

Remember, forgiveness is not a millstone but a milestone! Stephen Richards

The truth is, forgiving is a rather simple concept to grasp. It is often imagined that when you forgive, you have to reconcile with someone and yet this is a larger team in which forgiveness is just a player. Stephen Richards

The world is full of victims; don’t add to the growing culture of “I’ve a story to tell”, well not unless it’s a story to help others overcome situations or as a warning. Stephen Richards

Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity. Stephen Richards

Before making a snap judgment, ask yourself if it really is something that has hurt you or simply just made you angry at yourself for allowing it to happen. It’s amazing what ‘sleeping on it’ can do. A new day sees a new beginning. Stephen Richards

This pain you are avoiding is a very necessary pain that will make you strong again. Stephen Richards

We invent what we need to get us by, but in doing so we are really continuing to hold on to the pain of yesterday. Stephen Richards

You can learn to heal yourself, learn to understand that the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow! Stephen Richards

Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing! Stephen Richards

The pain you have gone through will give you the strength of character to come through it all, so long as you learn from what you have suffered then it was not suffering at all. Stephen Richards

What you have suffered after you have healed will make perfect sense. Stephen Richards

You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong. Stephen Richards

The practice of forgiving is a sequential practice that begins with excusing someone. Stephen Richards

As human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy? Stephen Richards

The pain you feel is simply because you do not yet have the strength to forgive. But you will grow strong again, that is for sure. Stephen Richards

Due to the need to co-exist with these inhuman and inconsiderate people, we will obviously be disturbed by their acts; something which if we look at closely actually means that we too could be affecting some other people negatively every once in a while. Stephen Richards

One way you can trace your way back to real and true happiness and joy is through forgiveness. Stephen Richards