32 "Maureen Brady" Quotes And Sayings

When shame is met with compassion and not received as confirmation of our guilt, we can begin to see how slant a lens it has had us looking through. That awareness lets us step back far enough to see that if we can let it go, we will see ourselves as clean where we once thought we were dirty. We will remember our innocence. We will see how our shame supported a system in which the perpetrators were protected and we bore the brunt of their offense – first in its actuality, then again in carrying their shame for it. If the method we chose to try to beat out shame was perfectionism, we can relax now, shake the burden off our shoulders, and give ourselves a chance to loosen up and make some errors. Hallelujah! Our freedom will not come from tireless effort and getting it all exactly right. Maureen Brady

For change to occur in us, we must be willing to enter the wilderness of the unknown and to wander in unfamiliar territory, directionless and often in the darkness.... We do not need to keep every little thing under control. In fact, we find ourselves only by allowing some falling apart to happen. Maureen Brady

Power is confusing for us, perhaps even terrifying, because our relationship with it had an unfortunate beginning. Someone in a position of power over us used and abused us… It seems as if power were something to be wielded, always at someone’s expense, usually our own. Maureen Brady

When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These feeling let us know we are taking action; they do not need to stop us. Maureen Brady

I am empowered by self-knowledge, by ownership of my experiences, and by all aspects of myself. Maureen Brady

In the grief that comes with recognizing what happened to us, we often feel there is nowhere to turn for solace… We do things to keep it away, such as becoming overly busy or using drugs or alcohol to numb our feelings. When we are caught up in resistance, we do not feel hope, but when we surrender to our sadness fully, hope trickles in. Maureen Brady

As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are having. Maureen Brady

I value and honor the way that my suffering brings me to further search and surrender. Maureen Brady

I choose to let positive attitudes lighten my being today. Maureen Brady

Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years–when we most needed self-love to be mirrored–it was difficult to hold onto… We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected. Maureen Brady

I am building a healthy support system and learning to use it readily. Maureen Brady

I am a whole person and have the potential to bring together all the different aspects of myself. Maureen Brady

I choose what sort of relationship I want to have with my family of origin today. Maureen Brady

We each have our own ways of sabotaging & keeping ourselves down… Do we need to remain the victim so strongly that we pull the ceiling down upon our own heads? There is a comfort in the familiar. Also, it is important to us to be in control because as children being abused we were not at all in control. In self-sabotage we can be both the victim & the victimizer. Maureen Brady

In order to survive our youth, many of us became sensitized to which conditions we had to play to, to receive attention. No wonder we mistook this attention for love. We thought love came in finite quantities–it had to be competed for among siblings, or it had to be paid for with exacting dues. Maureen Brady

Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser. Maureen Brady

When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse... We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it, ' but we could not have stopped it. We let go of the 'if only' now and sit still with our stark powerlessness… In our surrender to powerlessness, we touch ourselves with the gift of truth. Maureen Brady