200+ Quotes & Sayings By Shannon L Alder

Shannon L. Alder is an author, entrepreneur, speaker, and bestselling author of four books with over five million copies in print. Her passion is helping others to be self-sufficient individuals who can overcome adversity in life and thrive in their own unique ways. Shannon has worked with thousands of people seeking success through her book, The Success Plan in Real Life, which has helped thousands in overcoming inner roadblocks that hinder their success Read more

If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the...
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If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind. Shannon L. Alder
There comes a time in your life when you have...
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There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it. Shannon L. Alder
A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though...
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A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman's heart. Shannon L. Alder
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When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when other’s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when your sick, who thinks your pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, ‘that’s her’, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep….you marry him all over again. Shannon L. Alder
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A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out. Shannon L. Alder
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When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. Shannon L. Alder
The most confused you will ever get is when you...
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The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something your mind knows is a lie. Shannon L. Alder
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When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, "What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it? Shannon L. Alder
The most introspective of souls are often those that have...
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The most introspective of souls are often those that have been hurt the most. Shannon L. Alder
When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long...
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When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to see all the doors God has open in front of you. Shannon L. Alder
If he can't handle you at your worst then he...
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If he can't handle you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best. Real love means seeing beyond the words spoken out of pain, and instead seeing a person's soul. Shannon L. Alder
Soul connections are not often found and are worth every...
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Soul connections are not often found and are worth every bit of fight left in you to keep. Shannon L. Alder
Sensitive people usually love deeply and hate deeply. They don't...
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Sensitive people usually love deeply and hate deeply. They don't know any other way to live than by extremes because thier emotional theromastat is broken. Shannon L. Alder
Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked...
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Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change. Shannon L. Alder
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I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you….. I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something? Shannon L. Alder
Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is...
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Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you. Shannon L. Alder
Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort...
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Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone. Shannon L. Alder
The true definition of mental illness is when the majority...
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The true definition of mental illness is when the majority of your time is spent in the past or future, but rarely living in the realism of NOW. Shannon L. Alder
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It is easier to tell a person what life is not, rather than to tell them what it is. A child understands weeds that grow from lack of attention, in a garden. However, it is hard to explain the wild flowers that one gardener calls weeds, and another considers beautiful ground cover. Shannon L. Alder
Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it...
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Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another struggling soul like you. Shannon L. Alder
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An open Facebook page is simply a psychiatric dry erase board that screams, “Look at me. I am insecure. I need your reaction to what I am doing, but you’re not cool enough to be my friend. Therefore, I will just pray you see this because the approval of God is not all I need. Shannon L. Alder
Some stories have to be written because no one would...
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Some stories have to be written because no one would believe the absurdity of it all. Shannon L. Alder
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If you were born with the ability to change someone’s perspective or emotions, never waste that gift. It is one of the most powerful gifts God can give–the ability to influence. Shannon L. Alder
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Naive people tend to generalize people as–-good, bad, kind, or evil based on their actions. However, even the smartest person in the world is not the wisest or the most spiritual, in all matters. We are all flawed. Maybe, you didn’t know a few of these things about Einstein, but it puts the notion of perfection to rest. Perfection doesn’t exist in anyone. Nor, does a person’s mistakes make them less valuable to the world. 1. He divorced the mother of his children, which caused Mileva, his wife, to have a break down and be hospitalized.2. He was a ladies man and was known to have had several affairs; infidelity was listed as a reason for his divorce.3. He married his cousin.4. He had an estranged relationship with his son.5. He had his first child out of wedlock.6. He urged the FDR to build the Atom bomb, which killed thousands of people.7. He was Jewish, yet he made many arguments for the possibility of God. Yet, hypocritically he did not believe in the Jewish God or Christianity. He stated, “I believe in Spinoza’s God who reveals himself in the harmony of all that exists, not in a God who concerns himself with the fate and the doings of mankind. . Shannon L. Alder
God created philosophy for all the intellects that got bored...
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God created philosophy for all the intellects that got bored of hearing the same bible stories every Sunday. Shannon L. Alder
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If you have feelings for someone, let them know. It doesn’t matter if they can be in your life or not. Maybe, it is just enough for both of you to release the truth, so healing can occur. The opposite is true, as well. If you don’t have feelings for someone then never let another person suggest that you do. Protect your reputation and be responsible for the wrong information spread about you. Never allow anyone to live with a false belief or unfounded hope about you. An honorable person sets the record straight, so that person can move on with their life. Shannon L. Alder
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Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past. Shannon L. Alder
To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching...
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To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching them where they are with the only words they can understand. Shannon L. Alder
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Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. It's like sitting in a boat and neither one has an oar to row the other to shore. You can meet your mirror image in life, but that doesn't mean you should marry him. Shannon L. Alder
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Victimnoun \ˈvik-tÉâ„¢m\ 1. The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder, in order to excuse your behavior. Shannon L. Alder
Truth and facts are woven together. However, sometimes facts can...
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Truth and facts are woven together. However, sometimes facts can blind you from seeing what is actually going on in someone’s life. Shannon L. Alder
Your words will either give you joy or give you...
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Your words will either give you joy or give you sorrow, but if they were spoken without regret, they give you peace. Shannon L. Alder
No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person...
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No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others. Shannon L. Alder
Your strength will be found when you stop struggling with...
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Your strength will be found when you stop struggling with yourself, instead of thinking everyone is a struggle worth overcoming. Every obstacle in life is a lesson that teaches us, not others. Shannon L. Alder
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Dear Child, Sometimes on your travel through hell, you meet people that think they are in heaven because of their cleverness and ability to get away with things. Travel past them because they don't understand who they have become and never will. These type of people feel justified in revenge and will never learn mercy or forgiveness because they live by comparison. They are the people that don't care about anyone, other than who is making them feel confident. They don’t understand that their deity is not rejoicing with them because of their actions, rather he is trying to free them from their insecurities, by softening their heart. They rather put out your light than find their own. They don't have the ability to see beyond the false sense of happiness they get from destroying others. You know what happiness is and it isn’t this. Don’t see their success as their deliverance. It is a mask of vindication which has no audience, other than their own kind. They have joined countless others that call themselves “survivors”. They believe that they are entitled to win because life didn’t go as planned for them. You are not like them. You were not meant to stay in hell and follow their belief system. You were bound for greatness. You were born to help them by leading. Rise up and be the light home. You were given the gift to see the truth. They will have an army of people that are like them and you are going to feel alone. However, your family in heaven stands beside you now. They are your strength and as countless as the stars. It is time to let go! Love, Your Guardian Angel. Shannon L. Alder
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Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past. Shannon L. Alder
When someone you love makes compassion, kindness, forgiveness, respect and...
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When someone you love makes compassion, kindness, forgiveness, respect and God an option, you can be sure they have made you an option, as well. Shannon L. Alder
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The mind knows the truth when your heart denies what it feels. When you don't feel safe to let people in it is because you're not ready to deal with the pain of honesty. Shannon L. Alder
You are not what others think you are. You are...
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You are not what others think you are. You are what God knows you are. Shannon L. Alder
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The Anatomy of Conflict:If there is no communication then there is no respect. If there is no respect then there is no caring. If there is no caring then there is no understanding. If there is no understanding then there is no compassion. If there is no compassion then there is no empathy. If there is no empathy then there is no forgiveness. If there is no forgiveness then there is no kindness. If there is no kindness then there is no honesty. If there is no honesty then there is no love. If there is no love then God doesn't reside there. If God doesn't reside there then there is no peace. If there is no peace then there is no happiness. If there is no happiness ----then there IS CONFLICT BECAUSE THERE IS NO COMMUNICATION!. Shannon L. Alder
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Fear is to begin with the end in mind. There is no end. Life is eternal. Live life knowing that the end was your past, and the future is only full of beautiful beginnings through an eternity built around God’s love. Shannon L. Alder
In the end, what will you fight for-- what got...
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In the end, what will you fight for-- what got there first, what got there last or what has been there all along? Shannon L. Alder
The more I know about God, I am convinced He...
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The more I know about God, I am convinced He likes to read books and authors are His librarians. Every soul is a story waiting to be read. Shannon L. Alder
Many of the most powerful things in life are not...
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Many of the most powerful things in life are not tangible. All it takes is for you to close your eyes to see. Shannon L. Alder
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You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light. Shannon L. Alder
I would fight every angel between us until God said,...
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I would fight every angel between us until God said, "Yes. Shannon L. Alder
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My father taught me that you can you read a hundred books on wisdom and write a hundred books on wisdom, but unless you apply what you learned then its only words on a page. Life is not lived with intentions, but action. Shannon L. Alder
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The moon will guide you through the night with her brightness, but she will always dwell in the darkness, in order to be seen. Shannon L. Alder
It is not until you change your identity to match...
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It is not until you change your identity to match your life blueprint that you will understand why everything in the past never worked. Shannon L. Alder
Hide yourself in God, so when a man wants to...
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Hide yourself in God, so when a man wants to find you he will have to go there first. Shannon L. Alder
The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you...
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The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow. Shannon L. Alder
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The only way to move from your reality to God’s reality is through people who love you. Shannon L. Alder
The best kind of happiness is a habit you're passionate...
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The best kind of happiness is a habit you're passionate about. Shannon L. Alder
Always give your resume of good deeds when you run...
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Always give your resume of good deeds when you run into someone that you wronged many years ago. They simply need to know today's version of you, before they judge you on yesterday's news. Shannon L. Alder
True confidence is not about what you take from someone...
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True confidence is not about what you take from someone to restore yourself, but what you give back to your critics because they need it more than you do. Shannon L. Alder
Your actions will always be what the world sees, but...
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Your actions will always be what the world sees, but people who choose to see through God's eyes will always have the compassion to understand why. Shannon L. Alder
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When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you. Shannon L. Alder
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They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you. Shannon L. Alder
The only real battle in life is between hanging on...
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The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go. Shannon L. Alder
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When you let go of control and commit yourself to happiness, it is so easy to offer compassion and forgiveness. This propels you from the past, into the present. People that are negative, spend so much time trying to control situations and blame others for their problems. Committing yourself to staying positive is a daily mantra that states, “I have control over how I plan to react, feel, think and believe in the present. No one guides the tone of my life, except me! . Shannon L. Alder
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Your most important “want” should be the one you can control! Shannon L. Alder
Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable....
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Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud. Shannon L. Alder
Gratitude was never meant to be an excuse for giving...
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Gratitude was never meant to be an excuse for giving up on the obstacles God has put before you. Some of the most magical things he can bring us require faith and a lot of planning. Shannon L. Alder
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When you can’t reach the standards of another’s heart you must ask yourself, "What value do I put on my soul that I would subject myself to such rejection? Shannon L. Alder
You may marry Miss Grey for her fifteen pounds but...
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You may marry Miss Grey for her fifteen pounds but you will always be my Willoughby. My nightmare. My sorrow. My past. My mistake. My regret. My love. Shannon L. Alder
There are many forms of love as there is moments...
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There are many forms of love as there is moments in time, and you are capable of feeling them all at different stages of your life. Shannon L. Alder
Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another:...
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Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another: Why can't you see who I truly am? Shannon L. Alder
Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is...
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Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free. Shannon L. Alder
Hope combined with action is the only thing that will...
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Hope combined with action is the only thing that will bring you contentment. Shannon L. Alder
Maybe, if you can't get someone out of your head...
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Maybe, if you can't get someone out of your head they were never meant to leave. Perhaps, they were meant to help change you into the person you have been waiting to become. Shannon L. Alder
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A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that first dream and realize that God has already written the first chapter of the new life that awaits you. All you have to do is start reading! Shannon L. Alder
When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls...
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When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls with life missions to fulfill, you forever limit the growth and possibilities of what God has in store for another person. Shannon L. Alder
The God I believe in believes in me and won’t...
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The God I believe in believes in me and won’t silence my heart or others based on a paycheck at the end of the day. Shannon L. Alder
Books open the doors that others have closed on you.
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Books open the doors that others have closed on you. Shannon L. Alder
Hope has a way of casting shadows on the truth.
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Hope has a way of casting shadows on the truth. Shannon L. Alder
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When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of "second chances". Their eulogy is a reminder that the living can turn their lives around at any point. You’re not bound by the past; that is who you used to be. You’re reminded that your feelings are not who you are, but how you felt at that moment. Your bad choices defined you yesterday, but they are not who you are today. Your future doesn’t have to travel the same path with the same people. You can start over. You don’t have to apologize to people that won’t listen. You don’t have to justify your feelings or actions, during a difficult time in your life. You don’t have to put up with people that are insecure and want you to fail. All you have to do is walk forward with a positive outlook, and trust that God has a plan that is greater than the sorrow you left behind. The people of quality that were meant to be in your life won’t need you to explain the beauty of your heart. They already understand what being human is----a roller coaster ride of emotions during rainstorms and sunshine, sprinkled with moments when you can almost reach the stars. . Shannon L. Alder
Silence is a lie that screams at the light.
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Silence is a lie that screams at the light. Shannon L. Alder
All death reminds us that nothing is promised, only that...
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All death reminds us that nothing is promised, only that life was worth it. Shannon L. Alder
When I die I hope it may be said:' Her...
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When I die I hope it may be said:' Her suffering was black, but her books were read'. Shannon L. Alder
Every quote is like a Picasso. The meaning is different...
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Every quote is like a Picasso. The meaning is different for each person and half the admirers miss the true intent and twisted humor of it all. Shannon L. Alder
Inspirational quotes are dances of light that shine in dark...
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Inspirational quotes are dances of light that shine in dark places during your life. Shannon L. Alder
Stupid quotes are only Twitters in disguise.
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Stupid quotes are only Twitters in disguise. Shannon L. Alder
It is the subtle things in life that you have...
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It is the subtle things in life that you have to look for because the deepest love speaks at a whisper that only two people can hear. Shannon L. Alder
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Our CrossOur little circle hides in the mind, It's difficult to miss but hard to find, It goes unspoken but yet it speaks, From backward years to forward weeks, We can't forget but why even try, Two of a kind doesn't know goodbye, It's a silent question that God won't share, A breeze we feel but seems unfair, Distant, rare but only madness can see, It's something deeper than any infinity, Because we walk this parallel path up and down, There is no circle to hold us circus clowns, So let's give it a symbol and label it a loss, We will remember it always as we carry our cross. Shannon L. Alder
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There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone. Shannon L. Alder
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A competitive and insecure woman will tell you that “true love” is never giving up on someone you're in love with. A confident and spiritual woman knows that “moving on” doesn’t mean you never loved someone. She realizes that letting go is what God needs her to do because both your happiness and hers requires taking different journeys for spiritual growth. Letting go is sometimes the hardest thing, but it is the most “real love” you will ever experience. . Shannon L. Alder
Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds...
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Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured by finally letting go. However, your peace is measured by how long you don’t look back. Shannon L. Alder
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God is going to send you someone that will rescue you. Then one day you will rescue them in return and together your story will rescue others. He has always been a God of rescues and a maker of warriors for his grace. You only need to believe that you are part of something greater than you know. Shannon L. Alder
God will bring the right person into your life at...
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God will bring the right person into your life at the right time. Always believe that! If they are not there, God isn't finished yet! Shannon L. Alder
Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not...
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Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not knowing the real truth, and when you finally do know you can’t let go. Shannon L. Alder
Faith requires following the power of a whisper.
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Faith requires following the power of a whisper. Shannon L. Alder
God is perceived by the heart, not by your reason....
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God is perceived by the heart, not by your reason. But what is reason? Your heart simplifying God’s guidance to fit your own needs. Shannon L. Alder
Sometimes, the scariest thing you will ever have to do...
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Sometimes, the scariest thing you will ever have to do is trust God to fight the battles you can no longer fight. Shannon L. Alder
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Regardless of your faith, you can never escape uncertainty. Shannon L. Alder
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I write to find strength. I write to become the person that hides inside me. I write to light the way through the darkness for others. I write to be seen and heard. I write to be near those I love. I write by accident, promptings, purposefully and anywhere there is paper. I write because my heart speaks a different language that someone needs to hear. I write past the embarrassment of exposure. I write because hypocrisy doesn’t need answers, rather it needs questions to heal. I write myself out of nightmares. I write because I am nostalgic, romantic and demand happy endings. I write to remember. I write knowing conversations don’t always take place. I write because speaking can’t be reread. I write to sooth a mind that races. I write because you can play on the page like a child left alone in the sand. I write because my emotions belong to the moon; high tide, low tide. I write knowing I will fall on my words, but no one will say it was for very long. I write because I want to paint the world the way I see love should be. I write to provide a legacy. I write to make sense out of senselessness. I write knowing I will be killed by my own words, stabbed by critics, crucified by both misunderstanding and understanding. I write for the haters, the lovers, the lonely, the brokenhearted and the dreamers. I write because one day someone will tell me that my emotions were not a waste of time. I write because God loves stories. I write because one day I will be gone, but what I believed and felt will live on. Shannon L. Alder
If you haven't cried at least once while writing a...
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If you haven't cried at least once while writing a chapter of your inspirational book, then you have to ask yourself if your're writing fiction. Shannon L. Alder
Never annoy an inspirational author or you will become the...
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Never annoy an inspirational author or you will become the poison in her pen and the villian in every one of her books. Shannon L. Alder
Sometimes, God doesn’t send you into a battle to win...
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Sometimes, God doesn’t send you into a battle to win it; he sends you to end it. Shannon L. Alder
Writing romantic fiction is the second chance that loved ones...
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Writing romantic fiction is the second chance that loved ones denied us. Shannon L. Alder
An inspirational writer's life is an open book that never...
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An inspirational writer's life is an open book that never shuts. Choose your words carefully. Shannon L. Alder