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If he can't handle you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best. Real love means seeing beyond the words spoken out of pain, and instead seeing a person's soul.Shannon L. Alder
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Naive people tend to generalize people as–-good, bad, kind, or evil based on their actions. However, even the smartest person in the world is not the wisest or the most spiritual, in all matters. We are all flawed. Maybe, you didn’t know a few of these things about Einstein, but it puts the notion of perfection to rest. Perfection doesn’t exist in anyone. Nor, does a person’s mistakes make them less valuable to the world. 1. He divorced the mother of his children, which caused Mileva, his wife, to have a break down and be hospitalized.2. He was a ladies man and was known to have had several affairs; infidelity was listed as a reason for his divorce.3. He married his cousin.4. He had an estranged relationship with his son.5. He had his first child out of wedlock.6. He urged the FDR to build the Atom bomb, which killed thousands of people.7. He was Jewish, yet he made many arguments for the possibility of God. Yet, hypocritically he did not believe in the Jewish God or Christianity. He stated, “I believe in Spinoza’s God who reveals himself in the harmony of all that exists, not in a God who concerns himself with the fate and the doings of mankind. .Shannon L. Alder
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Faith requires following the power of a whisper.Shannon L. Alder
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You can't always expect people to apply your wisdom when they didn't use wisdom before they found themselves knee deep in their version of justice.Shannon L. Alder
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It really is quite simple. All women really want is to be needed, valued and loved above anyone else and they will make you a keeper. It's your actions she is paying attention to, not your words.Shannon L. Alder
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Maybe, the question isn't who will look good by your side, who will make these days less dull, who will bring you the greatest financial benefit, who will be the one to bring you pleasure, who do you have the most in common with?.... Maybe, the question one should ask is who do you want at your side when you are dying?Shannon L. Alder
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Never pray to be a better slave when God is trying to get you out of your situation.Shannon L. Alder
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Falling in love with a woman’s body is lust, with a woman’s mind is sense, with a woman’s heart is virtue, and with a woman’s soul is wisdom.Matshona Dhliwayo
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If you have to convince someone to stay with you then they have already left.Shannon L. Alder
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Sometimes the reason God doesn't show up to win your battles is because he already put inside of you the power to end it.Shannon L. Alder
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We were meant to rescue each other, not cut down the forest to rescue one.Shannon L. Alder
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The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling them how desperate you are to believe they care as much as you. True love resides in the first chance, stupidity in the second, opportunists in the third and scoundrels in the fourth.Shannon L. Alder
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Staying for your children is noble. However, staying with someone that teaches your children that "selective" evilness is okay is mental illness.Shannon L. Alder
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If you have to make a daily choice to be in a relationship then you are married to the past, not the person.Shannon L. Alder
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When people want to win they will go to desperate extremes. However, anyone that has already won in life has come to the conclusion that there is no game. There is nothing but learning in this life and it is the only thing we take with us to the grave–knowledge. If you only understood that concept then your heart wouldn’t break so bad. Jealousy or revenge wouldn’t be your ambition. Stepping on others to raise yourself up wouldn’t be a goal. Competition would be left on the playing field, and your freedom from what other people think about you would light the pathway out of hell. .Shannon L. Alder
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You can't fight hatred with hatred and expect anyone to listen to you. You can only try to lessen it with humor, wit, truth and commonsense. If that doesn't work run like hell, while they throw rocks at you.Shannon L. Alder
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You will never know the moon or stars, unless you breathe in their solar system and inspect it from many diverse vantage points as possible.Shannon L. Alder
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Money isn't the solution to your problems. It only lets you carry your unhappiness around in style.Shannon L. Alder
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The people that truly love us in life don't fight for us to remain a doormat for others.Shannon L. Alder
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Words don’t have the power to hurt you, unless that person meant more to you than you are willing to confess.Shannon L. Alder
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Empowering Women 101: Know the difference between real love and a person that is with you because it is easy and convenient. A real woman doesn't live in the fantasy that he just all of a sudden knew you were the one and no one else believes that either. Be willing to settle and accept the situation or work on it. However, don't sit in denial and pretend going through hell in a relationship was required before he saw your worth. He should have known from the beginning.Shannon L. Alder
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Sense will buy you more than dollars.Matshona Dhliwayo
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Never stop acquiring the commonsense, it is as good as the knowledge.Amit Kalantri
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Never presume to know a person based on the one dimensional window of the internet. A soul can’t be defined by critics, enemies or broken ties with family or friends. Neither can it be explained by posts or blogs that lack facial expressions, tone or insight into the person’s personality and intent. Until people “get that”, we will forever be a society that thinks Beautiful Mind was a spy movie and every stranger is really a friend on Facebook. .Shannon L. Alder
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Never mistake the uncomfortable feeling of insecurity and the fear of the unknown with the Holy Ghost’s promptings. Sometimes those feelings are simply Satan keeping you stuck where you are because he knows you will have a half-life there. He knows that you will spend half of your life disconnected, discontented and convincing your mind of what its heart will never accept. He knows when you have settled, gave up and didn’t try. Inaction is his greatest weapon, while regret is his second.Shannon L. Alder
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When the person you love can't see your love for them beneath the painful things you say when they reject you, remember this: Love is blind.Shannon L. Alder
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Never leave a situation unless you know what you needed and what you were never going to get.Shannon L. Alder
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A best friend is the one person that doesn't leave you worse off by their actions or yours.Shannon L. Alder
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It is not your talents that make you great, but your decisions.Shannon L. Alder
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Never allow yourself to become a choice in any relationship. The moment you do is when you have reduced your loved one's affections to a daily biological question: Should I take a dump here or wait till I get home?Shannon L. Alder
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Long standing hatred between a man and a woman is just unspoken attraction that has bruised egos.Shannon L. Alder
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Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows people to be comfortable.Shannon L. Alder
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When things don’t add up, either you don’t have a calculator or you forgot to use commonsense by simply asking.Shannon L. Alder
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If you put yourself in the emotion that you want from others, you are more likely to receive it.Shannon L. Alder
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Principles are meant to serve people, not people serving to uphold the principle, while harming the people.Shannon L. Alder
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Sometimes all you need is one person with a guilty conscience to come forward and do the right thing. Often, the miracle you need resides inside of yourself, when you humbly ask for forgiveness.Shannon L. Alder
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When you are standing in the middle of a storm you have two choices: Pray to God that it goes away. Or, start praying to God that he gives you the wisdom to figure out why you're standing in the middle of a storm.Shannon L. Alder
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It is not the homeless, mentally ill or extremely cunning people that we have to be afraid of. When someone loses everything that meant something to them is when people should get very afraid. A person that has nothing to lose is the scariest person on earth.Shannon L. Alder
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A wise woman protects her kids. A wiser woman hangs out with police officers, retired FBI agents and private investigators.Shannon L. Alder