11 Quotes & Sayings By Mary Pipher

Mary Pipher was born in Toledo, Ohio, in 1950. In 1976 she received a BA from Kent State University and a Masters in Human Development from Bowling Green State University. While working on her PhD in psychology at the University of Wisconsin at Madison, she also taught courses in counseling and family therapy. Pipher is the author of five previous books, including Reviving Ophelia, Daring to Love, and Teaching Your Child to Talk Read more

For more than twenty years she has worked as a therapist in private practice and is the founder of the Center for Family Therapy at California State University, Sacramento.

Language imparts identity, meaning, and perspective to our human condition....
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Language imparts identity, meaning, and perspective to our human condition. Writers are either polluters or part of the cleanup. Mary Pipher
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Religions are metaphorical systems that give us bigger containers in which to hold our lives. A spiritual life allows us to move beyond the ego into something more universal. Religious experience carries us outside of clock time into eternal time. We open ourselves into something more complete and beautiful. This bigger vista is perhaps the most magnificent aspect of a religious experience. There is a sense in which Karl Marx was correct when he said that religion is the opiate of the people. However, he was wrong to scoff at this. Religion can give us skills for climbing up on onto a ledge above our suffering and looking down at it with a kind and open mind. This helps us calm down and connect to all of the world's sufferers. Since the beginning of human time, we have yearned for peace in the face of death, loss, anger and fear. In fact, it is often trauma that turns us toward the sacred, and it is the sacred that saves us. Mary Pipher
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Prayer is vastly superior to worry. With worry, we are helpless; with prayer, we are interceding. When I hear sad news, I try to say a prayer for the victims. When I am troubled, I will say a prayer that asks for relief for myself and for all those who suffer as I do. When I am concerned about my relatives or friends I say a short prayer to myself - "May they be happy and free of suffering." Book: Seeking Peace: Chronicles of the Worst Buddist in the World . Mary Pipher
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Intelligent resistance keeps the true self alive Mary Pipher
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Therapy isn't Radio.We don't need to constantly fill the air with sounds. Sometimes, when its quite, surprising things happen. Mary Pipher
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Good therapy, gently but firmly, moves people out of denial and compartmentalization. It helps clients to develop richer inner lives and greater self-knowledge. It teaches clients to live harmoniously with others and it enhances Existential consciousness, and allows people to take responsibility for their effects on the world at large. For me , happiness is about appreciating what one has. Practically speaking, this means lowering expectations about what is fair, possible and likely. It means, finding pleasure in the ordinary. Mary Pipher
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With meditation I found a ledge above the waterfall of my thoughts. Mary Pipher
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Theoretically, I wanted to meditate, but I found actually doing it extraordinarily difficult. As a therapist, I knew that we all want progress, but we resist change. I was a vivid example of this maxim. Figuring out my taxes and going to the dentist were easier than meditating. Even as I told myself meditation was a top priority, I worked to avoid that forty-five minutes alone with my mind. Mary Pipher
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I read of a Buddhist teacher who developed Alzheimer's. He had retired from teaching because his memory was unreliable, but he made one exception for a reunion of his former students. When he walked onto the stage, he forgot everything, even where he was and why. However, he was a skilled Buddhist and he simply began sharing his feelings with the crowd. He said, "I am anxious. I feel stupid. I feel scared and dumb. I am worried that I am wasting everyone's time. I am fearful. I am embarrassing myself." After a few minutes of this, he remembered his talk and proceeded without apology. The students were deeply moved, not only by his wise teachings, but also by how he handled his failings. There is a Buddhist saying, "No resistance, no demons. Mary Pipher
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Adolescence is when girls experience social pressure to put aside their authentic selves and to display only a small portion of their gifts. Mary Pipher