38 Quotes About Coming Out

Coming out has always been an awkward topic, but it’s important to learn how to do it right. The LGBT community has always faced discrimination, yet people have still chosen to come out regardless. Coming out can be scary, because many people worry about judgment and being rejected. However, being authentic is more important than fitting in Read more

Being yourself is the most courageous thing you can do, because you are braver for it. Check out the best coming out quotes to help you face your fears and bravely share your identity.

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I don’t want anyone to hold back who they are. It’s not okay… it’s not a good thing Connor Franta
This is our big chance to see what people think...
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This is our big chance to see what people think of us. The real us. We have to show em there's nothing to be afraid of. If we don't get over our fears, they never will. Lisi Harrison
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Denying what you are didn't keep people from knowing what you are."" And flaunting it isn't what saved you." Ykka takes a deep breath. The muscles in her jaw flex, relax. "And that would be why I asked you do this, Cutter. But let's move on." So it goes on. N.K. Jemisin
I didn't come up with the lie. It wasn't mine....
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I didn't come up with the lie. It wasn't mine. They handed the lie to me, and I tried like hell to make it work for a while. Kenneth Logan
Now whenever I left class to go to the boys'...
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Now whenever I left class to go to the boys' room, I worried that I would end up on the blue tiled floor in a puddle of piss and blood. Kenneth Logan
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Did you just tell us you're gay?" Asks Nick"Yes.""Okay, " he says. Abby swats him. "What?""That's all you're going to say? Okay?""He said not to make a big deal out of it, " Nick says. "What am I supposed to say?"" Say something supportive. I don't know. Or awkwardly hold his hand like I did. Anything"Nick and I look at each other." I'm not holding your hand, " I tell him, smiling a little." All right"--he nods--"but know that I would. . Becky Albertalli
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If we held grudges for all the idiotic things we said and did as freshman and sophomores, the hallways would be silent. Kenneth Logan
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Ben let a slow smile play over his face. He loved this part. It always felt like revealing to a disbeliever that he had magical powers or something. Jay Bell
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But I'm tired of coming out. All I ever do is come out. I try not to change, but I keep changing, in all these tiny ways ..... And every freaking time, I have to reintroduce myself to the universe all over again. Becky Albertalli
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Most straight people, and many gay people, especially those who came of age more recently, don’t understand how momentous and difficult coming out was to men and women of this generation. It seems so obvious now, so banal. Christopher Bram
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No more looking at a wall and pretending it's a mirror. No more shelving fiction in the non-fiction section. No more thinking I could get away with it. David Levithan
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I don't want to lie about who I am, even if it doesn't matter. It's who I am. It's part of me. John Corey Whaley
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I mean, I really liked him to the point where being around him was sort of wonderful and painful all at the same time, you know? Kenneth Logan
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She kissed me on the cheek, and my mom sang Theresa’s name from the open front door. She loves Theresa. I think she loves me more when I’m with her. Kenneth Logan
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I could feel his hand on my waist, his arms around me, feel the rise and fall of his chest next to mine as I held my breath, and wished the sun would drop out of the sky. Kenneth Logan
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It was duck apocalypse! Kenneth Logan
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Dude, ” he said instead, “I’m flattered as hell.” And then he kicked my foot, lightly, twice. He was smiling. He couldn’t see the chasm that had opened behind my ribs. Kenneth Logan
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I've always wanted to wake up one day in a world where I liked the right people, and they lied me in return. I worry it'll never happen. Kenneth Logan
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I'm still not totally sure I know what's true about me. Kenneth Logan
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I do like the way people behave toward me and Theresa when we’re together-everyone’s voice changes to music, and we get all sorts of smiles. Kenneth Logan
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It’s okay. It may not seem like it right now, but you are going to be fine. I know it’s scary, but don’t be afraid. You are who you are, and you should love that person, and I don’t want anyone to have to go through 22 years of their life afraid to accept that. Connor Franta
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Clary- "How to Come Out to Your Parents, " she read out loud. "LUKE. Don't be ridiculous. Simon's not gay, he's a vampire. Cassandra Clare
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Burst down those closet doors once and for all, and stand up and start to fight. Harvey Milk
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I opened my mouth to do some calm explaining. "I'm gay." is what came out. Jane B. Mason
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– Do they know? That you're gay?– Why waste their time with it? It's not like it'll ever be an issue anyway.– Yeah, but, it's who you are, right?– I guess so, – he said. – I don't really know how to be any way else.– When did you know?– I was twelve, maybe. Something I just knew one day, even though I hadn't known it the day before.– So it's like that, huh? A feeling? Not just being into other dudes?– Oh no, it's that too. Of course it's that. But it's more, I think. Not so much a feeling as a fact, like having blue eyes or brown hair. It's just maybe something you don't discover until you're ready to understand it better.– Like being straight, – she said. Only we don't have to deal with all that closet bullshit.– Bingo, – he said. John Corey Whaley
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That was the moment when I knew I was in real trouble, that I might really be the kind of person you weren’t supposed to be. Drew Nellins Smith
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But thats their image of us so we stay tense, holding our breath, hoping we wont be found out. - about being gay from the film Love My Life Ebine Yamaji
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Day leveled Ronowski with a stern glare. “Ronowski, you are gay, man. You’re tightly closeted. But you are indeed gay, ultra-gay. You’re fuckin’ Marvin Gay. You crash landed on Earth when your gay planet exploded.” Day moved away from God and stood in front of an openmouthed Ronowski. “Come out of the closet already. It’s so bright and wonderful out here. Dude, I’ve seen Brokeback Mountain too, don’t believe that bullshit. No one cares who you fuck…ya know…like you tell me every. Single. Day. Of. My. Life, ” Day said exaggeratedly. A.E. Via
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If you are in the closet and fall in love with someone of the same gender, it doesn't automatically remove the shame and fear that's kept you locked away. The love you are experiencing encourages you to face the reality that this is who you really are and also has the power to set you free. The richness, beauty and depths of love can only be fully experienced in a climate of complete openness, honesty and vulnerability. Love, the most powerful of human emotions, is calling you to freedom and wholeness. . Anthony VennBrown
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Make no mistake, hiding one's true self away in a closet and creating a facade of heterosexuality is not without its consequences. It may appear to have a degree of safety but from my experience they are very unhealthy places and do all kinds of terrible things to individuals psychologically, emotionally and behaviourally...to say nothing of projection. The damage of the fear, shame, guilt and self-loathing that exist inside a closet are often reflected unknowingly in the external life of the individual. In or out of the closet; there is a price to pay. Each individual must weigh up the consequences of honesty, openness, secrecy and deception for themselves. Coming out, for most of us, is like an exorcism that releases us of the darkness we have lived in for years and caused us to believe awful things about ourselves. On the other side of the looking glass are freedom, light and life. . Anthony VennBrown
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If she understood the difference between referring to me as "the gay guy" and using my name, the knowledge was lost between her vapid gaze and her single AAA-battery brain. John Goode
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Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends if indeed they are your friends. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once they realize that we are indeed their children, that we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and all. And once you do, you will feel so much better . Harvey Milk
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I mean , I never even had to really come out to my parents. They always knew, and it was always okay. Or not even okay, better than that. Not something that had to be evaluated at all. It just was. Like having brown hair. Julie Buxbaum
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This thing that’s always been inside and hidden deep is getting bigger and stronger and threatening to show itself, and I want to stop it but I also don’t, and I don’t know if I’m ready, but I think maybe I want what’s inside turned outside, maybe I want everything out in the open, all my secrets laid out for everyone to see. I wonder what that would look like. I wonder what kind of mess it would make. I wonder if you can ever really be ready for the part of you that you’ve been hiding your whole life to finally come out. . Amy Reed
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It's official, then. Everyone knew I was gay before I did. Liz Kessler
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Every single courageous act of coming out chips away at the curse of homophobia. Most importantly it's destroyed within yourself, and that act creates the potential for its destruction where it exists in friends, family and society. Anthony VennBrown
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There are those from religious backgrounds who resist and oppose LGBT equality; some very obsessively and publicly. They make bold accusations and negative statements about gay and lesbian people, their supposed "lifestyle" and relationships. But when a son, daughter, brother, sister or close friend comes out it is no longer an "issue" it becomes a person. They realise everything they'd said was painfully targeted at someone they love. Then...everything changes. Anthony VennBrown