16 Quotes & Sayings By Lidiya K

Lidiya K. is a best-selling author of the Love and Life series, which she writes in English. The books, based on her own experiences as a single parent with three children, have been published in 30 countries. She lives in South Africa with her husband and children.

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Your life looks like a prison because you focus on the things you wish you had and thus don’t appreciate what you already have. So why don’t you try to see the abundance in your life? Because, if you haven’t noticed, you’ve got many things to thank for. Just look around. Lidiya K.
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Every place you don’t want to be at feels like a prison. And we have so many desires, expectations and go back to the past and think about the future so often, that I can safely say that we live in such a prison all the time. So each time you wish you were somewhere else right now is another solid wall you build and thus make this imaginary building even stronger. Lidiya K.
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Everything real is in the present moment. Only here can we find happiness and harmony, feel alive and do something that will change our future. Only here can we be with the people we love, enjoy the things we like and see beautiful places. Lidiya K.
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I’ve noticed that most of us don’t realize how important this moment is. They take it for granted, know it’s brief and think that it can’t change anything. But I think it can change it all. Lidiya K.
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Life is a series of such moments. And making each one matter means you’re living your life to the fullest. Lidiya K.
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One of the reasons for not being contented is our inability to accept things as they are, together with ourselves, other people, events and every little detail of our days. And we try to change the unchangeable and control the uncontrollable. Lidiya K.
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Often we suffer because we don’t realize what’s essential. We may want to be rich, but the rich are lonely. We see all those people on TV that have won the lottery and want to be at their place, but studies show that they are even more miserable after having won the big check. They don’t really know what to do with all that money, take poor decisions on how to spend them, change themselves and their friends don’t see them in the same way. . Lidiya K.
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Mindfulness helps you understand that the past is gone, can’t be changed and all the lessons are already learned. Lidiya K.
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Kids want to be grown ups, adults want to be young and careless again. Single people desperately want a relationship, but those who are in one still complain almost all the time and wish for freedom. The poor want money, the rich want more of it. This means that changing your situation doesn’t prevent you from suffering, doesn’t make your desires go away. So you need to change something on the inside. Lidiya K.
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There’s a void inside most people. It’s been created by not being contented with who we are, not being happy with what we have, not being present and looking for something more, better, more exciting out there. And we’ve always been trying to fill this void with something external. Lidiya K.
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Our heads are full of comparisons, needs for approval and attention, a desire to be at other places, imagining things could be better there and thus hating our reality. We are the only ones to blame for our own suffering. We hurt ourselves every time we think of how other people should behave according to our standards and then suffer when they appear to be individuals; every time we open a book with so many expectations about it from what we’ve heard and hoped it to be, and then close it in disappointment, realizing it’s something totally different (maybe beautiful, inspiring and challenging, but nothing that met our expectations). Lidiya K.
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Most of the pain we experience, whether we realize it or not, comes from the fantasies we live in. We create our own worlds, where there are certain rules, things to be done and said and events to happen. And every time that doesn’t go according to the plan (which, basically, means anything because we have no control over what might happen and can’t predict it), we panic. Lidiya K.
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Accept yourself for the person you are, for all the mistakes you did and also for the transformation you’re about to experience in the future. Love your future version from this moment. Lidiya K.
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No ideals. No illusions. Just reality - but more perfect than you’ve ever imagined. That’s what being mindful and living in the present means. Lidiya K.
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No person that has ever felt the benefits of being present can consider himself a victim, or unhappy in any way. Lidiya K.