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The Responsive Classroom approach creates an ideal environment for learning--every teacher should know about it.Daniel Goleman
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In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feelsDaniel Goleman
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Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.Daniel Goleman
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The argument has long been made that we humans are by nature compassionate and empathic despite the occasional streak of meanness, but torrents of bad news throughout history have contradicted that claim, and little sound science has backed it. But try this thought experiment. Imagine the number of opportunities people around the world today might have to commit an antisocial act, from rape or murder to simple rudeness and dishonesty. Make that number the bottom of a fraction. Now for the top value you put the number of such antisocial acts that will actually occur today. That ratio of potential to enacted meanness holds at close to zero any day of the year. And if for the top value you put the number of benevolent acts performed in a given day, the ratio of kindness to cruelty will always be positive. (The news, however, comes to us as though that ratio was reversed.) Harvard's Jerome Kagan proposes this mental exercise to make a simple point about human nature: the sum total of goodness vastly outweighs that of meanness. 'Although humans inherit a biological bias that permits them to feel anger, jealousy, selfishness and envy, and to be rude, aggressive or violent, ' Kagan notes, 'they inherit an even stronger biological bias for kindness, compassion, cooperation, love and nurture — especially toward those in need.' This inbuilt ethical sense, he adds, 'is a biological feature of our species.Daniel Goleman
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Threats to our standing in the eyes of others are remarkably potent biologically, almost as powerful as those to our very survival.Daniel Goleman
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My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.Daniel Goleman
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A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt 'Don't bother me - I've got important work to do.'Daniel Goleman
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People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.Daniel Goleman
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Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.Daniel Goleman
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The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.Daniel Goleman
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But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.Daniel Goleman
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Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.Daniel Goleman
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When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.Daniel Goleman
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Emotional 'literacy' implies an expanded responsibility for schools in helping to socialize children. This daunting task requires two major changes: that teachers go beyond their traditional mission and that people in the community become more involved with schools as both active participants in children's learning and as individual mentors.Daniel Goleman
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One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.Daniel Goleman
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Whenever we feel stressed out, that's a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.Daniel Goleman
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Social distance makes it all the easier to focus on small differences between groups and to put a negative spin on the ways of others and a positive spin on our own.Daniel Goleman
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In politics, readily dismissing inconvenient people can easily extend to dismissing inconvenient truths about them.Daniel Goleman
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The industrial processes in use today were developed at a time when no one had to consider what the environmental impact was. Who cared? But making ecological concerns matter to a company's bottom line will help it do the research and development that will reinvent everything we buy.Daniel Goleman
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I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.Daniel Goleman