In order to be accepted, women must compensate for their ambition and strength by being nice. Men don't have to be nearly as much d as women. I do not believe women are natively nicer than men. They may learn that niceness brings rewards and hat names ambition is often punished. They may ingratiate themselves because such behavior is rewarded and a strategy of stealth may lead to better results than being forthright, but even when women are open and direct, they are not always seen or heard. Siri Hustvedt
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Women are constantly judged by society based on how much they’re willing to compromise. Men are not. This is something I’ve noticed in almost every relationship I’ve ever had with a woman. They feel that if they “sweeten up” or act like they “can take it,” then men will be attracted to them.

They think that if they act like they don’t want anything too challenging, then men will want them. If women don’t believe in themselves enough to be aggressive, the theory goes, then men won’t want them because being assertive is scary.

Source: A Woman Looking At Men Looking At Women: Essays On Art, Sex, And The Mind

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