Society doesn't officially recognize friendship as an institution in the way it recognizes sexual relationships, so there's no real protocol for ending one. If you've been going out, dating, or just sleeping with someone for even a month or two an you want to stop seeing him, you're expected to have a conversation with him letting him know it and giving him some bogus explanation. This conversation is seldom pleasant, and it ranges in tone from brittle adult adult discussions in coffee shops to armed standoffs in day care centers, but once it's over, you at least know your status. Because there's no formal etiquette for ending a friendship, most people do it in the laziest, most passive and painless way possible, by unilaterally dropping any effort to sustain it and letting the other person figure it out for themselves. .Tim Kreider
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There are few problems that are as painful to live with as the loss of a friendship. This is because it’s not really a problem at all, rather it is an opportunity for learning how to deal with failure. If you have any sort of failure in your life, whether it is failure at work or in your personal relationships, you have the chance to learn from it. When you lose a friend, you have the chance to really see what is your problem.
You can see what is holding you back from being successful both personally and professionally. You can learn how to be at peace with yourself and move on with your life knowing that if you are not happy then there is something you need to do differently.
Source: We Learn Nothing
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