But I still feel like I lost. We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It's easy. The first girl I ever loved was someone I knew in the sixth grade. Her name was Missy; we talked about horses. The last girl I love will be someone I haven't even met yet. probably. They all count. But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you'll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there's still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. You will remember having conversations with this person that never actually happened. You will recall sexual trysts with this person that never technically occurred. This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are real-but you create the context. And context is everything. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they're often just the person you happen to meet first time you really, really want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else. .Chuck Klosterman
About This Quote
When you fall in love with the wrong person, you are bound to feel like you have lost. It's easy to lose someone who is wrong for you, but it's harder to find the right person. The idea that money can be an indicator of whether or not you are in love is something that comes from a tragic experience that many people have. It is hard to see the one person you love falling in love with others who are wealthier than themselves.
It makes it hard to see why they are falling in love with someone who has more possessions than them. The fact that you are jealous simply proves that someone else loves them back. This turns into a vicious cycle where if either party can't be happy, then it will just drive the other person away even more.
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