Heloise learned to love Abelard solely for who he was. That forbidden love brought her nothing but pain, but she would rather have shame and pain with Abelard than peace and happiness without him.

Gary Thomas
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Heloise loved Abelard, but she married him because she was told that that was what was expected of her. After all, she was a servant in his house. But when she fell in love with him, he was already married to another woman. She did not want to be thought of as an adulteress.

So she decided to commit adultery with Abelard. She spent much of her time with him, yet there were times when they could not be together because his wife would be visiting. She accepted this fact and still continued to love him.

Eventually, he fell in love with her and they had a child together, but their relationship did not end well for them in the end.

Source: Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage To Make Us Holy More Than To Make Us Happy?

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