11 Quotes & Sayings By Paul Monette

Paul Monette is the author of a New York Times bestseller, a recipient of a Gertrude Stein Award, a finalist for the Los Angeles Times Book Prize, and an Orange Prize nominee. His work has been translated into six languages. He is a columnist for The New York Times Magazine and a contributing editor to the Columbia Journalism Review, among other publications. In 2014, he was named to Forbes’ 30 Under 30 list Read more

He lives in rural Virginia with his wife and three children.

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It would take me the better part of growing up to understand that intimacy, more than sex or even sexual orientation, was the universal battleground, and no easier for straight than gay. Paul Monette
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Tears are part of the leeway of the common areas of a hospital, since so many have to do their crying away from the patient's bed. You don't care who sees you cry in the lobby: it was port of entry for all the sorrows, and one gave up all one's previous citizenship at the border. Paul Monette
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The imagination was the only country where a man could truly breathe free. Paul Monette
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I was out of the war because men like this were too scared to talk about dick. Paul Monette
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Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you're hurting. Paul Monette
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The Bible is still the only dirty book I've ever read, at least in its current incarnation as a weapon of the homophobes. Bible scholarship keeps trying to catch up, proving that all the hatred of gay is just stupid translation, though the snake-oil preachers don't want to hear it. Paul Monette
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Organized religion is the school of hate, and never more exultant in its righteous indignation than when it talks about gay and lesbian. In America the unholy alliance between the know-nothing fundamentalists and the Catholic hierarchy keeps the faithful whipped up to a frenzy of witch-hunting and fag-bashing. Paul Monette
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Lust and the English make no sense to me. Paul Monette
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And thus I wonder about so many gay men I’ve met since, pillars of the community, out to everyone else but Mom, who still refer to their lovers as something between a roommate and a valet. Just who is being protected here, and who thinks queer is wrong? Paul Monette
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Being different was about something more than just our dicks. Paul Monette