3 Quotes & Sayings By Christine Ann Lawson

Christine Ann Lawson is the author of The Housewife Who Packed Her Chalkboard Bags, a New York Times bestselling memoir. She is also the author of the bestseller, I'm Not Your Typical Mother, and the upcoming novel, How to Be a Mom Like Me. Christine has traveled the world as an author, speaker and blogger for more than twenty years. She received her MBA from the University of Texas at Austin and lives in Austin with her husband and two children.

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The Queen is controlling, the Witch is sadistic, the Hermit is fearful, and the Waif is helpless. And each requires a different approach. Don't let the Queen get the upper hand; be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the Hermit's fears or become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with the Witch; maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. And with the Waif, don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization. Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic. . Christine Ann Lawson
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The borderline Queen experiences what therapists call "oral greediness". The desperate hunger of the borderline Queen is akin to the behavior of an infant who had gone too long between feelings. Starved, frustrated, and beyond the ability to calm of soothe herself, she grabs, flails, and wails until at last the nipple is planted securely and perhaps too deeply in her mouth. She coughs, gags, chokes, and spits, eyeing the elusive breast like a wolf guarding her food. Similarity, the Queen holds on to what is hers, taking more than she could use, in case it might be taken away prematurely. Christine Ann Lawson