100 Quotes About Self Determination

Self-determination is the ability to make your own decisions and live your life on your own terms. It’s the ability to do what you want without being forced, influenced, or controlled by anyone else. It’s a state of mind that allows you to be yourself, even if that person is a little different from your friends or family. Self-determination has been linked to better grades in school, less depression and anxiety, greater happiness, and more meaningful personal relationships Read more

So if you have it, use it!

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It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice. . Coco Chanel
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I am not an angel, ' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me - for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate. Unknown
I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow,...
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I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me. William Shakespeare
Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection.
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Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection. Jane Austen
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You are mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner." (Elizabeth Bennett) Jane Austen
If you end up with a boring miserable life because...
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If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it. Frank Zappa
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be...
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Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself. Harvey Fierstein
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Oh the places you'll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all. Dr. Seuss
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Bottom line is, even if you see 'em coming, you're not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So what are we, helpless? Puppets? No. The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are. Joss Whedon
You cannot change what you are, only what you do.
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You cannot change what you are, only what you do. Philip Pullman
It's not what you say out of your mouth that...
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It's not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it's what you whisper to yourself that has the most power! Robert T. Kiyosaki
The best way to predict your future is to create...
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The best way to predict your future is to create it. Abraham Lincoln
Life is partly what we make it, and partly what...
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Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose. Tehyi Hsieh
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The man who believes that the secrets of the world are forever hidden lives in mystery and fear. Superstition will drag him down. The rain will erode the deeds of his life. But that man who sets himself the task of singling out the thread of order from the tapestry will by the decision alone have taken charge of the world and it is only by such taking charge that he will effect a way to dictate the terms of his own fate. . Cormac McCarthy
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I felt the taste of mortality in my mouth, and at that moment I understood that I was not going to live forever. It takes a long time to learn that, but when you finally do, everything changes inside you, you can never be the same again. I was seventeen years old, and all of a sudden, without the slightest flicker of a doubt, I understood that my life was my own, that it belonged to me and no one else. I’m talking about freedom, Fogg. A sense of despair that becomes so great, so crushing, so catastrophic, that you have no choice but to be liberated by it. That’s the only choice, or else you crawl into a corner and die. Paul Auster
I can be changed by what happens to me. But...
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I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.( Popular misquote of "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.") Maya Angelou
Parents can only give good advice or put them on...
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Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands. Anne Frank
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more...
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman. Maya Angelou
The greatest thing in the world is to know how...
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The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. Michel De Montaigne
The easiest thing to be in the world is you....
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The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position. Leo Buscaglia
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Maybe your country is only a place you make up in your own mind. Something you dream about and sing about. Maybe it's not a place on the map at all, but just a story full of people you meet and places you visit, full of books and films you've been to. I'm not afraid of being homesick and having no language to live in. I don't have to be like anyone else. I'm walking on the wall and nobody can stop me. Hugo Hamilton
None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding...
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None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone. Ralph Waldo Emerson
You don't need anybody to tell you who you are...
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You don't need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are! John Lennon
Except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our...
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Except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power. Unknown
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Is it better to work out consciously and critically one's own conception of the world and thus, in connection with the labours of one's own brain, choose one's sphere of activity, take an active part in the creation of the history of the world, be one's own guide, refusing to accept passively and supinely from outside the moulding of one' own personality? Antonio Gramsci
Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others....
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Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others. .. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth."( Journal entry, 14 October 1922) Katherine Mansfield
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Milton's Eve! Milton's Eve! .. Milton tried to see the first woman; but Cary, he saw her not .. I would beg to remind him that the first men of the earth were Titans, and that Eve was their mother: from her sprang Saturn, Hyperion, Oceanus; she bore Prometheus" --"Pagan that you are! what does that signify?"" I say, there were giants on the earth in those days: giants that strove to scale heaven. The first woman's breast that heaved with life on this world yielded the daring which could contend with Omnipotence: the stregth which could bear a thousand years of bondage, -- the vitality which could feed that vulture death through uncounted ages, -- the unexhausted life and uncorrupted excellence, sisters to immortality, which after millenniums of crimes, struggles, and woes, could conceive and bring forth a Messiah. The first woman was heaven-born: vast was the heart whence gushed the well-spring of the blood of nations; and grand the undegenerate head where rested the consort-crown of creation..I saw -- I now see -- a woman- Titan: her robe of blue air spreads to the outskirts of the heath, where yonder flock is grazing; a veil white as an avalanche sweeps from hear head to her feet, and arabesques of lighting flame on its borders. Under her breast I see her zone, purple like that horizon: through its blush shines the star of evening. Her steady eyes I cannot picture; they are clear -- they are deep as lakes -- they are lifted and full of worship -- they tremble with the softness of love and the lustre of prayer. Her forehead has the expanse of a cloud, and is paler than the early moon, risen long before dark gathers: she reclines her bosom on the ridge of Stilbro' Moor; her mighty hands are joined beneath it. So kneeling, face to face she speaks with God. That Eve is Jehova's daughter, as Adam was His son. . Unknown
If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door
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If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door Milton Berle
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Stored personal memories along with handed down collective memories of stories, legends, and history allows us to collate our interactions with a physical and social world and develop a personal code of survival. In essence, we all become self-styled sages, creating our own book of wisdom based upon our studied observations and practical knowledge gleaned from living and learning. What we quickly discover is that no textbook exist how to conduct our life, because the world has yet to produce a perfect person — an ideal observer — whom is capable of handing down a concrete exemplar of epistemic virtues. We each draw upon the guiding knowledge, theories, and advice available for us in order to explore the paradoxes, ironies, inconsistencies, and the absurdities encountered while living in a supernatural world. We mold our personal collection of information into a practical practicum how to live and die. Each day we define and redefine who we are, determine how we will react today, and chart our quest into an uncertain future. Kilroy J. Oldster
Feeding the ego is starving the wisdom, the choice is...
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Feeding the ego is starving the wisdom, the choice is yours. Efrat Cybulkiewicz
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If I simply look at the map that I’ve so tediously created, it will explain why I’m laying at the bottom of this cliff looking up. Craig D. Lounsbrough
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I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it. Groucho Marx
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The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same. Unknown
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I earnestly wish to point out in what true dignity and human happiness consists. I wish to persuade women to endeavor to acquire strength, both of mind and body, and to convince them that the soft phrases, susceptibility of heart, delicacy of sentiment, and refinement of taste, are almost synonymous with epithets of weakness, and that those beings are only the objects of pity, and that kind of love which has been termed its sister, will soon become objects of contempt. Mary Wollstonecraft
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Yes, faith; it is my cousin's duty to make curtsy and say 'Father, as it please you.' But yet for all that, cousin, let him be a handsome fellow, or else make another curtsy and say 'Father, as it please me. William Shakespeare
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LEONATOWell, then, go you into hell? B E A T R I C E No, but to the gate; and there will the devil meet me, like an old cuckold, with horns on his head, and say 'Get you to heaven, Beatrice, get you to heaven; here's no place for you maids:' so deliver I up my apes, and away to Saint Peter for the heavens; he shows me where the bachelors sit, and there live we as merry as the day is long. William Shakespeare
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LEONATOWell, niece, I hope to see you one day fitted with a husband. B E A T R I C E Not till God make men of some other metal than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmastered with a pierce of valiant dust? to make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl? No, uncle, I'll none: Adam's sons are my brethren; and, truly, I hold it a sin to match in my kindred. William Shakespeare
If [God] send me no husband, for the which blessing...
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If [God] send me no husband, for the which blessing I am at him upon my knees every morning and evening ... William Shakespeare
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Obviously, a rigid, blinkered, absolutist world view is the easiest to keep hold of, whereas the fluid, uncertain, metamorphic picture I've always carried about is rather more vulnerable. Yet I must cling with all my might to … my own soul; must hold on to its mischievous, iconoclastic, out-of-step clown-instincts, no matter how great the storm. And if that plunges me into contradiction and paradox, so be it; I've lived in that messy ocean all my life. I've fished in it for my art. This turbulent sea was the sea outside my bedroom window in Bombay. It is the sea by which I was born, and which I carry within me wherever I go. Salman Rushdie
Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will
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Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will Jack Welch
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I’d like them to appreciate the power of the individual–and I don’t mean me; I mean the power each person has to make choices and be accountable for himself or herself. I’ve noticed that people are quick to put you in a category–if you come from this place then you are that thing. But I’ve never placed much value in statistics and trends, bar graphs and socioeconomic data that sum people up. I stop listening when somebody asks me if I know what my chances are. I don’t know that I believe in probability. People are inexplicable and incomprehensible, and nobody really knows what’s possible until they try. I prefer the exceptions to the rules. I like people who try, even when their chances are zero. Kenny Porpora
It may take little time to get where you want...
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It may take little time to get where you want to be, but if you pause and think for a moment, you will notice that you are no longer where you were. Do not stop–keep going. Rodolfo Costa
The first step toward success is taken when you refuse...
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The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. Mark Cain
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Life is still better than University. In school, your teacher is the fruit picker and you are the open fruit basket. Then you take those fruits and make cakes and pies. But life is going to give you the chance to go out there and pick those fruits yourself. Then you can eat them, or make them into something else; any which way, your own hands picked them! C. Joybell C.
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We employ education and the convictions gained through the intermeshing of personal experiences and fresh ideas to establish the configuration of our being that in actuality was our mysterious potentiality from the very inception of our birth. Kilroy J. Oldster
Concentrate and complete the journey.
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Concentrate and complete the journey. Lailah Gifty Akita
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The greatest gift for yourself is to study to the highest degree. Lailah Gifty Akita
I wonder how many books you have read?
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I wonder how many books you have read? Lailah Gifty Akita
Possibilities exist for you, to educate yourself, to the highest...
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Possibilities exist for you, to educate yourself, to the highest degree. Lailah Gifty Akita
Make time to read.
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Make time to read. Lailah Gifty Akita
Awake. Reach out. Press onward.
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Awake. Reach out. Press onward. Lailah Gifty Akita
You ought to write down your goals. It serves as...
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You ought to write down your goals. It serves as a guidepost and gives strength for purposeful action. Lailah Gifty Akita
May you find the confidence and courage to climb new...
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May you find the confidence and courage to climb new heights. Lailah Gifty Akita
How the story will end, no one knows? We can...
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How the story will end, no one knows? We can only envisage. Lailah Gifty Akita
Dare the impossible. By grace it will be possible.
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Dare the impossible. By grace it will be possible. Lailah Gifty Akita
Find the will power and begin to chase your dreams.
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Find the will power and begin to chase your dreams. Lailah Gifty Akita
My life is build around books.
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My life is build around books. Lailah Gifty Akita
It can be done. It will be done.
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It can be done. It will be done. Lailah Gifty Akita
The whole value of solitude depends upon oneself; it may...
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The whole value of solitude depends upon oneself; it may be a sanctuary or a prison, a haven of repose or a place of punishment, a heaven or a hell, as we ourselves make it. John Lubbock
Focus! (said a voice within me). We are here to...
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Focus! (said a voice within me). We are here to craft emotions. To become a better person. Not to waste our serenity on someone who had a poor upbringing and are not taught manners. Efrat Cytbulkiewicz
There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear...
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There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me. Jane Austen
Look forward, in the direction of sunshine.
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Look forward, in the direction of sunshine. Lailah Gifty Akita
Rationality and calm self-determination were one of the great illusions...
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Rationality and calm self-determination were one of the great illusions of the universe... in the end, we were all ruled by our passions. Michael R. French
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(Response to King Erik XIV of Sweden's proposal of marriage:)"[ W]hile we perceive .. the zeal and love of your mind towards us is not diminished, yet in part we are grieved that we cannot gratify your Serene Highness with the same kind of affection. And that indeed does not happen because we doubt in any way of your love and honour, but, as often we have testified both in words and writing, that we have never yet conceived a feeling of that kind of affection towards anyone. We therefore beg your Serene Highness again and again that you be pleased to set a limit to your love, that it advance not beyond the laws of friendship for the present nor disregard them in the future.. We certainly think that if God ever direct our hearts to consideration of marriage we shall never accept or choose any absent husband how powerful and wealthy a Prince soever. But that we are not to give you an answer until we have seen your person is so far from the thing itself that we never even considered such a thing. I have always given both to your brother .. and also to your ambassador likewise the same answer with scarcely any variation of the words, that we do not conceive in our heart to take a husband but highly commend this single life, and hope that your Serene Highness will no longer spend time in waiting for us. Elizabeth I
Work hard to fulfill your dreams.
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Work hard to fulfill your dreams. Lailah Gifty Akita
Act as if it was and it will be.
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Act as if it was and it will be. Lailah Gifty Akita
You have to believe in your dreams.
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You have to believe in your dreams. Lailah Gifty Akita
The greatest energy must be use for work.
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The greatest energy must be use for work. Lailah Gifty Akita
The most courageous act is still to think for yourself....
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The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud. Coco Chanel
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I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience. Unknown
I'm single because I was born that way.
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I'm single because I was born that way. Mae West
Freedom is what we do with what is done to...
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Freedom is what we do with what is done to us. JeanPaul Sartre
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I am not an angel, " I asserted; "and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Unknown
It is vain to expect virtue from women till they...
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It is vain to expect virtue from women till they are in some degree independent of men. Mary Wollstonecraft
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You can do anything you want. You don't believe me. You think, she's out of her head. Yeah, I'm out of my head- on being me. What are you on? On being them. You don't even know. I bet you were never given a chance to know...Listen. You can be anything you want to be. Be careful. It's a spell. It's magic. Listen to the words.. You are anything..everyone, anyone..You listen to them, teachers, parents, politicians. They're always saying, if you steal you're a thief, if you sleep aroung you're a slut, if you take drugs you're a junkie. They want to get inside your head and control you with their fear..Don't play their game. Nothing can touch you; you stay beautiful. . Melvin Burgess
If I follow the inclination of my nature, it is...
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If I follow the inclination of my nature, it is this: beggar-woman and single, far rather than queen and married. Elizabeth I
There are some who want to get married and others...
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There are some who want to get married and others who don't. I have never had an impulse to go to the altar. I am a difficult person to lead. Greta Garbo
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What we ask is to be human individuals, however peculiar and unexpected. It is no good saying: "You are a little girl and therefore you ought to like dolls"; if the answer is, "But I don't, " there is no more to be said. Dorothy L. Sayers
You are not controlling the storm, and you are not...
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You are not controlling the storm, and you are not lost in it. You are the storm. Sam Harris
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It really is something .. that men disapprove even of our doing things that are patently good. Wouldn't it be possible for us just to banish these men from our lives, and escape their carping and jeering once and for all? Couldn't we live without them? Couldn't we earn our living and manage our affairs without help from them? Come on, let's wake up, and claim back our freedom, and the honour and dignity that they have usurped from us for so long. Do you think that if we really put our minds to it, we would be lacking the courage to defend ourselves, the strength to fend for ourselves, or the talents to earn our own living? Let's take our courage into our hands and do it, and then we can leave it up to them to mend their ways as much as they can: we shan't really care what the outcome is, just as long as we are no longer subjugated to them. . Moderata Fonte
[I]n the end this shall be for me sufficient, that...
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[I]n the end this shall be for me sufficient, that a marble stone shall declare that a Queen, having reigned such a time, lived and died a virgin. Elizabeth I
I love man as my fellow; but his scepter, real,...
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I love man as my fellow; but his scepter, real, or usurped, extends not to me, unless the reason of an individual demands my homage; and even then the submission is to reason, and not to man. Mary Wollstonecraft
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She could just pack up and leave, but she does not visualize what's beyond ahead. Unknown
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[F]rom my years of understanding .. I happily chose this kind of life in which I yet live [i.e., unmarried], which I assure you for my own part hath hitherto best contented myself and I trust hath been most acceptable to God. From the which if either ambition of high estate offered to me in marriage by the pleasure and appointment of my prince .. or if the eschewing of the danger of my enemies or the avoiding of the peril of death .. could have drawn or dissuaded me from this kind of life, I had not now remained in this estate wherein you see me. But so constant have I always continued in this determination .. yet is it most true that at this day I stand free from any other meaning that either I have had in times past or have at this present. . Elizabeth I
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Every man has within him only one life and one nature ... It behooves a man to look within himself and turn to the best dedication possible those endowments he has from his Maker. You do no wrong in questioning what once you held to be right for you, if now it has come to seem wrong. Put away all thought of being bound. We do not want you bound. No one who is not free can give freely. Ellis Peters
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If you have strength of character, you can use that as fuel to not only be a survivor but to transcend simply being a survivor, use an internal alchemy to turn something rotten and horrible into gold. Zeena Schreck
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Privacy’ is an unusable term. We should instead talk about freedom, autonomy and self-determination of the individual. Being allowed to be yourself, to think whatever you want and to act within the law with no hindrance. That resonates with everyone. Unknown
We are condemned to be free people, liberated people who...
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We are condemned to be free people, liberated people who must make life-defining decisions. Freedom requires choices and all choices entail value decisions. Kilroy J. Oldster
Self-questioning is the road to personal liberation and spiritual enlightenment....
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Self-questioning is the road to personal liberation and spiritual enlightenment. Self-questioning spurs the mind to consider new opportunities to arrive at truth. Kilroy J. Oldster
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A person must escape artificial constraints and unfold the myth of their own being. There is only one path for a thinking person in life, and that is to assume the role of a compassionate observer. I can only achieve personal freedom — liberty of the mind, body, and soul — by stop worrying about how other people perceive me and no longer judge myself in terms of fame and fortune. Kilroy J. Oldster
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I'm worried that students will take their obedient place in society and look to become successful cogs in the wheel - let the wheel spin them around as it wants without taking a look at what they're doing. I'm concerned that students not become passive acceptors of the official doctrine that's handed down to them from the White House, the media, textbooks, teachers and preachers. Howard Zinn
Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the...
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Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim. Nora Ephron
I hate to hear you talk about all women as...
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I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives. Jane Austen
A girl should be two things: who and what she...
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A girl should be two things: who and what she wants. Coco Chanel
Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere.
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Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere. Mae West
As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects...
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As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects to a woman thinking. Virginia Woolf
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Responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and naming for you; it means learning to respect and use your own brains and instincts; hence, grappling with hard work. Adrienne Rich
[I]f we revert to history, we shall find that the...
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[I]f we revert to history, we shall find that the women who have distinguished themselves have neither been the most beautiful nor the most gentle of their sex. Mary Wollstonecraft
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In reaction against the age-old slogan, "woman is the weaker vessel, " or the still more offensive, "woman is a divine creature, " we have, I think, allowed ourselves to drift into asserting that "a woman is as good as a man, " without always pausing to think what exactly we mean by that. What, I feel, we ought to mean is something so obvious that it is apt to escape attention altogether, viz: (..) that a woman is just as much an ordinary human being as a man, with the same individual preferences, and with just as much right to the tastes and preferences of an individual. What is repugnant to every human being is to be reckoned always as a member of a class and not as an individual person. Dorothy L. Sayers
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In fact, there is perhaps only one human being in a thousand who is passionately interested in his job for the job's sake. The difference is that if that one person in a thousand is a man, we say, simply, that he is passionately keen on his job; if she is a woman, we say she is a freak. Dorothy L. Sayers