71 Quotes About Anger Management

You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light. Shannon L. Alder

When you are angry–stop, breath, relax, step back, think, and forgive before you react. Debasish Mridha

Love is not the answer, peace is. Throughout my whole life I have experienced and seen others use love as a reason to treat people with unkindness by being controlling, jealous, shouting in anger, and projecting guilt and shame. If you love someone but there is not peace in your heart when you think of that person then your work is not done. Do not stop at love, continue all the way towards the freedom of inner peace. Love starts when peace begins. Without peace love is simply a mask for our insecurity, judgment, and egoic attachments. Alaric Hutchinson

If you lack open communication and honesty in your life — It’s time to look within. Are you someone who handles heavy, emotional, or tough information well or do you often get excessively agitated, upset, or depressed? My rule of thumb is that no topic ‘should’ ever be off limits with a loved one. That is the goal to work towards. The point being, if you’re easy to talk to, people will talk to you! If you’re not, then they won’t!. Alaric Hutchinson

There are two types of seeds in the mind: those that create anger, fear, frustration, jealousy, hatred and those that create love, compassion, equanimity and joy. Spirituality is germination and sprouting of the second group and transforming the first group. Amit Ray

Many men find themselves unable to cope with even minor frustration. They get angry over trivial things, such as a broken pencil lead or an overcooked hamburger. Their anger erupts and gets out of control. They feel as though they are constantly under attack, that everyone is out to get them, and that nobody understands or cares about them. They may even get superstitious and believe that fate has it in for them, or that God has turned against them. This feeling of having no control leads to a state of continual frustration and anger. This tendency to react with instant anger can be called rage. Rage is anger that never completely goes away. Unlike regular anger, it is not a response to a specific event; rather, it is a response set, or tendency. In other words, it is an automatic way of reacting to the world without much thought. When you react to more and more situations with anger, it becomes your habitual response. You may often find yourself furiously yelling or seething inside without even knowing what it was that made you so angry. Rage sees personal attack in every disagreement. Rage causes you to feel threatened when there is no threat. And rage causes you to viciously counter-attack even a minor threat. Rage is like a wounded animal. It attacks anything that moves. And as with a wounded animal, the attacks do nothing to ease the pain. Rage depersonalizes individual people and events into a faceless, nameless "them". . Thomas J. Harbin

Whenever you are angry, take a beautiful object in your house and smash it to pieces. The pity you feel for what you have done is silly compared to what you are doing to your mind: taking a sacred moment to be alive and desecrating it by being angry. Kamand Kojouri

Healthy people know not to gorge on anger. At the end of the day, they walk away. They choose to end it. And it’s an easier choice the next time. Steve Goodier

Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the 'true colors' of an individual. It, on the contrary, becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound then explodes as something foreign, something very different than one's natural self. Criss Jami

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve? . Shannon L. Alder

A person who finds grace never lacks the courage to endure, remain resolute in principles and action in the face of an easy collapse into anger, insanity, and self-destruction when living in an increasing chaotic world filled with armed conflict, terrorism, and cultural discord. Kilroy J. Oldster

Comfort blindfolds; difficulty brings realization. Pain reveals; disappointments plant trigger of actions. Fear controls; ignorance deceives. Anger torments; silence keeps. Misunderstanding divides; love joins. Laughter starts; deception suspects. Frowning cautions; sorrow remembers. Purposefulness moves; idleness wastes. When you live in comfort, ponder. When you live in pain, take lessons. When life goes up, plant your feet and appreciate the height. When life goes down, envision the height and dare to get there with tenacity. Life is how you take and manage things. Be a manager of things or things shall be your manager . Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

Woe to him who offends a patient man who has just reached his limit. Joyce Rachelle

Pride has quite a bit to do with hatred. In many a case in which one hates another, one subconsciously begins patterns of cherry-picking and selective hearing: he continues to look only for things about the other person which he can use to justify his hatred, things which will then make him feel less guilty about hating someone. In this regard, hatred is not so much an emotion as it is a decision. Criss Jami

To take good care of ourselves, we must go back and take care of the wounded child inside of us. You have to practice going back to your wounded child every day. You have to embrace him or her terderly, like a big brother or a big sister. You have to talk to him, talk to her. And you can write a letter to the Little child in you, of two or three pages, to that you recognize his or her presence, and will do everything you can to heal his or her wounds. Thich Nhat Hanh

Before you reach the point of forgiveness, you go through the phase where you pray... for every possible misfortune and ill luck to strike them dead while you sit and watch. Joyce Rachelle

One of the greatest lessons we can learn in life is how to keep mute when the boiling ring of anger is dropped within us Ikechukwu Izuakor

People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this "network of life" and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry. . Shannon L. Alder

Both sadness and anger are the two sides of same coin. Sadness is supressed anger, while anger is expressed sadness. Both sadness and anger are state of unhappiness, which are often because lack of self-love. Vishwas Chavan

Never be too angry beyond repairs. Anger is nothing good to be part of your tributes. Are you angry with someone? The sun is sinking, just drop it now. Israelmore Ayivor

Because women tend to turn their anger inward and blame themselves, they tend to become depressed and their self-esteem is lowered. This, in turn, causes them to become more dependent and less willing to risk rejection or abandonment if they were to stand up for themselves by asserting their will, their opinions, or their needs. Men often defend themselves against hurt by putting up a wall of nonchalant indifference. This appearance of independence often adds to a woman's fear of rejection, causing her to want to reach out to achieve comfort and reconciliation. Giving in, taking the blame, and losing herself more in the relationship seem to be a small price to pay for the acceptance and love of her partner. As you can see, both extremes anger in and anger out-create potential problems. While neither sex is wrong in the way they deal with their anger, each could benefit from observing how the other sex copes with their anger. Most men, especially abusive ones, could benefit from learning to contain their anger more instead of automatically striking back, and could use the rather female ability to empathise with others and seek diplomatic resolutions to problems. Many women, on the other hand, could benefit from acknowledging their anger and giving themselves permission to act it out in constructive ways instead of automatically talking themselves out of it, blaming themselves, or allowing a man to blame them. Instead of giving in to keep the peace, it would be far healthier for most women to stand up for their needs, their opinions, and their beliefs. . Beverly Engel

Control yourself, it is not worth it. You will regret your rudeness afterwards, your sensitive nature will be troubled Leila Aboulela

Not until you change your lens, true beauty shall always look ugly to you! Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

Anger is the fire of the soul, love is the language of the heart ... Stephen Richards

The best fighter is never angry. Lao Tzu

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. Ambrose Bierce

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. Thomas Paine

When the anger is intense, the person with Asperger's syndrome may be in a 'blind rage' and unable to see the signals indicating that it would be appropriate to stop. Feelings of anger can also be in response in situations where we would expect other emotions. I have noted that sadness may be expressed as anger. Tony Attwood

Why on earth do you carry a mirror around with you?” “It's purely a defensive device. We seldom quarrel, and this is one of the reasons. Can you imagine yourself getting all worked up and contorted and illogical and then coming face to face with yourself, looking at yourself exactly as you look to everyone else? Theodore Sturgeon

If I hear the phrase "selfie" one more time, I'll have to enroll myself in anger management classes. Rebecca McNutt

To function successfully in our complex world it is necessary for us to possess the capacity not only to express our anger but also not to express it. Moreover, we must possess the capacity to express our anger in different ways. At times, for instance, it is necessary to express it only after much deliberation and self-evaluation. At other times it is more to our benefit to express it immediately and spontaneously. Sometimes it is best to express it coldly and calmly; at other times loudly and hotly. M. Scott Peck

Rather than trying to control Anger, try deferring it, looking for an alternative way of handling...i bet its more easy as well as more effective. Ketan R Shah

Anger may not have been derived from the Hindi word 'angaar' meaning Fire...however coincidentally both are equally destructive. Ketan R Shah

I'm unable to tell you what it feels like to be "a little" mad. My emotions work as if controlled by a light switch. I'm either fine or I'm out of control. I once spilled a container of thumbtacks and got as angry at myself as I did when I screwed up my relationship with my high school sweetheart. If I'm under the impression that there are Golden Grahams in my cupboard, then realize that there in fact are none, there's a high probability I'll be as sad as I was at my grandfather's funeral. In other words, my reactions aren't in proportion to the things I'm reacting to. It's something I've been working on with a very lovely shrink for the past few years. But against the 4Skins one day, all that hard word went out the window. Chris Gethard

If at all, anger has to be exercised.....let it be superficial Ketan R Shah

When your emotions are in motion, take a break and ponder! Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

Make their hate your stepping stones towards achieving something greater. This will be the best revenge you can give – by proving to people that they are wrong about you, and that you are better than they could ever imagine. Auliq Ice

It's futile to talk reason to anger Bangambiki Habyarimana

What happens if anger takes you over, Tessa? Who will you be then? What will be left of you? Jenny Downham

I tend to throw tantrums a lot. Wear a helmet in my presence. Natalya Vorobyova

When in a negatively charged state, be careful about the decisions you make. Karen Salmansohn

Controlled anger leads to positive action. Todd Stocker

The ManAlive program teaches how the “angry man” is more often a response to experiencing a threat to their “image, ” which triggers a fight or flight response. When the sympathetic nervous system gets triggered — breathing is more rapid, heart rate increases, blood pressure goes up — men call this stimulated response “anger.” In fact, anger is more often a response to injustice. What these men are experiencing is not anger but an arousal state. This is key information for men to have because, as they learn to interrupt this hyperarousal, they have more oppor-tunity to connect with what they may actually be feeling. . Mary Crocker Cook

Sarcasm is a manifestation of anger, and anger can make you the puppet of your opponents. Wayne Gerard Trotman

You mustn't let your emotions get the better of you. There is a great deal to be angry about, but anger doesn't change things. Gemma Malley

The best vaccine against anger is to watch others in its throes. Marcel Proust

No matter the terrible fighting and shooting in the desert, the riffle fires can never dry the oasis. Auliq Ice

Anger kills logical thinking and logical thinking kills anger....the choice is yours Ketan R Shah

Anger is a super weapon given by god...with a catch...the more you use it the less effective it becomes. Ketan R Shah

Peace and anger cannot coexist.in fact there is a high negative corelation , the higher the anger lesser the peace and lesser the anger higher the peace... Zero anger is probably bliss. Ketan R Shah

Acknowledging and being concious that you are being angry is a battle half won against anger. Ketan R Shah

Keep your heart and soul free from anger. Lailah Gifty Akita

Free your hearts of anxiety, pain and anger, to have peace within your heart and soul. Lailah Gifty Akita

I thought if I didnt take a break, I would do something even worse. Like yell or hang up the phone. Stephen Chbosky

I just reminded myself that she didn't say it mean. She wasn't making fun of me. She wasn't comparing. Or criticizing. Stephen Chbosky

Have you ever requested an angry person to get into rage? Ravi Samuel

Anger can be defeated by controlling our emotions without upsetting the nerves. Munia Khan

Never take literally what is said out of anger! They are said just to hurt you — sometimes the opposite could be true! Ravi Samuel

If the heartbeat is a vital sign of physical health, anger is the vital sign of emotional health. Anger protects the self in all relationships. It is rage that is damaging. Sue Parker Hall

Just by breathing deeply on your anger, you will calm it. You are being mindful of your anger, not suppressing it..touching it with the energy of mindfulness. You are not denying it at all. When I speak about this to psychotherapists, I have some difficulty. When I say that anger makes us suffer, they take it to mean that anger is something negative to be removed. But I always say that anger is an organic thing, like love. Anger can become love. Our compost can become a rose. If we know how to take care of our compost.. Anger is the same. It can be negative when we do not know how to handle it, but if we know how to handle our anger, it can be very positive. We do not need to throw anything away, " (50). Thich Nhat Hanh

When you beat up someone physically, you get excercise and stress relief; when you assault him verbally on the Internet, you just harm yourself. Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Start with very small experiments. When anger arises, stop! What is the hurry? When you feel hatred, wait! There should be some interval. Reply only when you are fully conscious — not until that. You will find that all that is sinful in life has fallen away from you; all that is wrong is banished forever. You will suddenly discover, there is no need to respond to anger. Perhaps you might feel like thanking the man who insults you. Because he has obliged you. He gave you an opportunity to awaken. Kabir has said stay near the one who is critical of you. Look after him and serve him who is abusing you because it is he who gives you the opportunity to awaken. All the occasions that drown you in unconsciousness can be turned into stepping stones to awareness if you wish so. Life is like a huge boulder lying in the middle of the road. Those who are foolish, see the stone as a barrier and turn back. For them the road is closed. Those who are clever, climb the stone and use it as a step. And the moment they make it a stepping stone greater heights are available to them. A seeker should keep in mind only one factor, and that is: to utilize each moment to awaken awareness. Then be it hunger or anger or lust or greed, every state can be utilized towards awareness. Osho

If people keep stepping on you, wear a pointy hat. Joyce Rachelle

Laughter is much better than anger. Wayne Gerard Trotman

An angry enemy is a conquered enemy Bangambiki Habyarimana