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There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles; we realize our experience and it's continued effects on us won't "just go away". That's our breakthrough moment. It's the sun coming out to warm the seeds of hope so they can grow our personal garden of empowerment.Jeanne McElvaney
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In a condition of struggle and of failure we must be able to say "I must try harder" or "I must try differently." Both views are essential . A change in either makes for a change in outcome. When we say "I must try harder" we mean that the most relevant variable is something within us - intention, will, determination, "meaning it" . When we say "I must try differently" we mean that the most relevant variable lies in the situation within which intention is being exerted, that we should look to the environment, to the ways it pushes and pulls at us, and in this study find the means to alter that interaction.Allen Wheelis
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Healing isn’t just about pain. It’s about learning to love yourself. As you move from feeling like a victim to being a proud survivor, you will have glimmers of hope, pride and satisfaction. Those are natural by-products of healing.Ellen Bass
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Who was it that hurt you, stole light out of your eyes? Cut a hole in your heartand let the love drain dry? Who was so damn careless, to leave you with such scars? Where will you find healing? Right here, within my arms.John Mark Green
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Don't try to be brave all at once. Take it in steps.C. Kennedy
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One can learn from what is not said.C. Kennedy
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Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy. They wonder why others often fail to treat them with respect--not realizing that they have signalled others that it is not necessary to treat them with respect.Nathaniel Branden
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Staying in an abusive relationship for the fear of public judgment is like allowing to be buried alive to impress a coffin makerDr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana
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Staying in a relationship with someone who doesn't love him/herself, is a direct reflection of how much you love and value yourself.Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana
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Attitudes and ignorance” about (any type of) abuse can be passed down through the generations. It is important to our healing that we sort out the belief systems we adopt; belief systems that were taught to us and because they are so full of lies, they lead to all kinds of depressions, addictions and other struggles while we try to cope with the manifestations of the problems instead of the roots of the problems.Darlene Ouimet
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I love like a beaten child and I trust like an addict.Kris Kidd
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Sometimes we self-sabotage just when things seem to be going smoothly. Perhaps this is a way to express our fear about whether it is okay for us to have a better life. We are bound to feel anxious as we leave behind old notions of our unworthiness. The challenge is not to be fearless, but to develop strategies of acknowledging our fears and finding out how we can allay them.Maureen Brady
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Writing therapy is my form of healing. Try and detach yourself from painful memories by infusing characters and then stepping back.Phil Wohl
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There are tons of kids out there who endure chronic abuse and suffer in silence. They can’t trust anyone, they can’t tell anyone, and they have no idea how to get away from it.C. Kennedy
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In order to break free from the chains that bind, one must take whatever action they can to disconnect internally from the larger systems of oppression, of which the family unit is merely a microcosm.Sil Lai Abrams
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Christy isn’t a case, he’s a person.C. Kennedy
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I'm still not sure if I was a victim or not... and if I was, who was my abuser?Eskay Teel
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You're a survivor because every day you make a choice not to be governed by their harsh words or actions. No one has the right to take away your happinessAssunta Harris