Quotes From "Real Love: The Art Of Mindful Connection" By Sharon Salzberg

Smiling at someone can have significant health consequences.
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Smiling at someone can have significant health consequences. Sharon Salzberg
Seeking happiness is not the problem. The problem is that...
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Seeking happiness is not the problem. The problem is that we often do not know where and how to find genuine happiness and so make the mistakes that cause suffering for ourselves & others. Sharon Salzberg
When you recognize and reflect on even one good thing...
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When you recognize and reflect on even one good thing about yourself, you are building a bridge to a place of kindness and caring. Sharon Salzberg
Never feel ashamed of your longing for happiness.
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Never feel ashamed of your longing for happiness. Sharon Salzberg
Clinging to our ideas of perfection isolates us from life...
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Clinging to our ideas of perfection isolates us from life and is a barrier. Sharon Salzberg
For any marginalized group to change the story that society...
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For any marginalized group to change the story that society tells about them takes courage and perseverance. Sharon Salzberg
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The idea that traumatic residues–or unresolved stories–can be inherited is groundbreaking. Sharon Salzberg
The unconscious mind is a vast repository of experiences and...
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The unconscious mind is a vast repository of experiences and associations that sorts things out much faster than the slow-moving conscious mind. Sharon Salzberg
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The practice of sympathetic joy is rooted in inner development. It’s not a matter of learning techniques to “make friends and influence people.” Instead, we build the foundations of our own happiness. When our own cup is full, we more easily share it with others. Sharon Salzberg
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Sometimes people in abusive situations think they’re responsible for the other person’s happiness or that they’re going to fix them and make them feel better. The practice of equanimity teaches that it’s not all up to you to make someone else happy. Sharon Salzberg
Buddhism has a term for the happiness we feel at...
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Buddhism has a term for the happiness we feel at someone else’s success or good fortune. Sympathetic joy, as it is known, invites us to celebrate for others. Sharon Salzberg
Even as we recognize our resentment, bitterness, or jealousy, we...
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Even as we recognize our resentment, bitterness, or jealousy, we can also honor our own wish to be happy, to feel free. Sharon Salzberg
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The more we identify and acknowledge moments when we’re unable to share in someone else’s pleasure and ask ourselves whether another person’s happiness truly jeopardizes our own, the more we pave the way for experiencing sympathetic joy Sharon Salzberg
The more we practice sympathetic joy, the more we come...
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The more we practice sympathetic joy, the more we come to realize that the happiness we share with others is inseparable from our own happiness. Sharon Salzberg
It is awareness of both our shared pain and our...
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It is awareness of both our shared pain and our longing for happiness that links us to other people and helps us to turn toward them with compassion. Sharon Salzberg
The difference between a life laced through with frustration and...
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The difference between a life laced through with frustration and one sustained by happiness depends on whether it is motivated by self-hatred or by real love for oneself. Sharon Salzberg
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When we can step back even briefly from our hurt, sorrow, and anger, when we put our faith in the possibility of change, we create the possibility for non-judgmental inquiry that aims for healing rather than victory. Sharon Salzberg
Cultivation of positive emotions, including self-love and self-respect, strengthens our...
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Cultivation of positive emotions, including self-love and self-respect, strengthens our inner resources and opens us to a broader range of thoughts and actions. Sharon Salzberg
Genuine awe connects us with the world in a new...
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Genuine awe connects us with the world in a new way. Sharon Salzberg
Real love allows for failure and suffering.
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Real love allows for failure and suffering. Sharon Salzberg