Quotes From "Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology And Less From Each Other" By Sherry Turkle

The idea that we can be exactly what the other...
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The idea that we can be exactly what the other desires is a powerful fantasy. Sherry Turkle
Because you can text while doing something else, texting does...
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Because you can text while doing something else, texting does not seem to take time but to give you time. This is more than welcome; it is magical. Sherry Turkle
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A sacred space is not a place to hide out. It is a place where we recognize ourselves and our commitments. Sherry Turkle
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To understand desire, one needs language and flesh. Sherry Turkle
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Discovering an inner history requires listening — and often not to the first story told. Sherry Turkle
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It's too late to leave the future to the futurists. Sherry Turkle
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I miss those days even though I wasn't alive. Sherry Turkle
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The idea of being vulnerable leaves a lot of room for choice. There is always room to be less foldable, more evil. Sherry Turkle
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One of the emotional affordances of digital communication is that one can always hide behind deliberated nonchalance. Sherry Turkle
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We expect more from technology and less from each other. Sherry Turkle
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Eric Erikson writes that in their search for identity, adolescents need a place of stillness, a place to gather themselves. Sherry Turkle
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Overstimulated, we seek out constrained worlds. Sherry Turkle
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Texting is more direct. You don't have to use conversation filler. Sherry Turkle
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Laboratory research suggests that how we look and act in the virtual affect our behavior in the real. Sherry Turkle
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The way we contemplate technology on the horizon says much about who we are and who we are willing to become. Sherry Turkle
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We go from curiosity to a search for communion. Sherry Turkle
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Addiction is to the habits of mind that technology allows us to practice. Sherry Turkle
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As adults, we can develop and change our opinions. In childhood, we establish the truth of our hearts. Sherry Turkle
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She had set it on the Internet, its own peculiar echo chamber. Sherry Turkle
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This is what technology wants, it wants to be a symptom. Like all psychological symptoms, it obscures a problem by "solving" it without addressing it. Sherry Turkle
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Children make theories when they are confused or anxious. Sherry Turkle
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When young people are insecure, they find ways to manufacture love tests — personal metrics to reassure themselves. Sherry Turkle
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Who says that we always have to be ready to communicate? Sherry Turkle
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Online life is practice to make the rest of life better, but it is also a pleasure in itself. Sherry Turkle
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A good therapy helps you develop a sense of irony about your life so that when you start to repeat old and unhelpful patterns, something within you says, "There you go again; let's call this to a halt. You can do something different." Often the first step toward doing something different is developing the capacity to not act, to stay still and reflect. Sherry Turkle
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If you're having a conversation with someone in speech, and it's not being tape-recorded, you can change your opinion, but on the Internet, it's not like that. On the Internet it's almost as if everything you say were being tape-recorded. You can't say, "I changed my mind. Sherry Turkle
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We have to love technology enough to describe it accurately. And we have to love ourselves enough to confront technology's true effect on us. Sherry Turkle
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We see a first generation going through adolescence knowing their every misstep, all the awkward gestures of their youth, are being frozen in a computer's memory. Sherry Turkle
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Underestimation has its uses. Sherry Turkle
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We cannot all write like Lincoln or Shakespeare, but even the least gifted of us has the incredible instrument, our voice, to communicate the range of human emotions. Why would we deprive ourselves of that? Sherry Turkle
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Children content with parents who are physically close, tantalizingly so, but mentally elsewhere. Sherry Turkle
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There is a rich literature on how to break out of quandary thinking. It suggests that sometimes it helps to turn from the abstract to the concrete. Sherry Turkle
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This is a new nonnegotiable: to feel safe, you have to be connected. Sherry Turkle
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Increasingly, people feel as though they must have a reason for taking time alone, a reason not to be available. Sherry Turkle
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He experiences a connection where knowledge does not interfere with wonder. Sherry Turkle
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When Thoreau considered "where I live and what I live for, " he tied together location and values. Where we live doesn't just change how we live; it informs who we become. Most recently, technology promises us lives on the screen. What values, Thoreau would ask, follow from this new location? Immersed in simulation, where do we live, and what do we live for? Sherry Turkle
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A woman in her late sixties described her new i Phone: "it's like having a little time square in my pocketbook. All lights. All the people I could meet. Sherry Turkle
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Face-to-face with a computer, people reflected on who they were in the mirror of the machine. Sherry Turkle
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From the earliest days, videogame players were less interested in winning than in going to a new psychic place where things were always a bit different, but always the same. The gambler and the videogame player share a life of contradiction; you are overwhelmed, and so you disappear into the game. Sherry Turkle
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When one becomes accustomed to "companionship" without demands, life with people may seem overwhelming. Dependence on a person is risky but it also opens us to deeply knowing another. Sherry Turkle
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My cell phone is my only individual zone, just for me. Sherry Turkle
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Once we become tethered to the network, we really don't need to keep computers busy. THEY KEEP US BUSY. Sherry Turkle
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Show me a person in my shoes who is looking for a robot, and I'll show you someone who is looking for a person and can't find one. Sherry Turkle
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Computers brought philosophy into everyday life. Sherry Turkle
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Fantasies and wishes carry their own significant messages. Sherry Turkle
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Sometimes a citizenry should not simply "be good". You have to leave space for dissent, real dissent. Sherry Turkle
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One of the privileges of childhood is that some of the world is mediated by adults. Sherry Turkle
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Realtechnik is skeptical about linear progress. It encourages humility, a state of mind in which we are most open to facing problems and reconsidering decisions. It helps us acknowledge costs and recognize the things we hold inviolate. Sherry Turkle
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Relationships we complain about nevertheless keep us connected to life. Sherry Turkle
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When people turn other people into selfobjects, they are trying to turn a person into a kind of spare part. Sherry Turkle