Sadly, the signals that allow men and women to find the partners who most please them are scrambled by the sexual insecurity initiated by beauty thinking. A woman who is self-conscious can't relax to let her sensuality come into play. If she is hungry she will be tense. If she is "done up" she will be on the alert for her reflection in his eyes. If she is ashamed of her body, its movement will be stilled. If she does not feel entitled to claim attention, she will not demand that airspace to shine in. If his field of vision has been boxed in by "beauty"--a box continually shrinking--he simply will not see her, his real love, standing right before him. .Naomi Wolf
About This Quote
In this quote, he explains how beauty thinking makes people feel insecure and as a result they will refuse to let their sensuality shine. If a man's eyes are always drawn to someone else, he is not going to see his girlfriend, wife or even a friend for that matter. This quote explains that a woman who is not confident in her body will be tense because she will know that her body is not perfect and it will make her feel insecure.
Source: The Beauty Myth
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