Julie LythcottHaimsBut we should open our eyes to the many ways in which hypervigilance keeps them penned in from the more liberated life they deserve to live and that in turn would prepare them for adulthood.
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The world is full of expectations. As children, we have to grow up because adults expect us to. When we are 13 years old, we are expected to be able to do everything an adult can do. We are expected to know everything, do everything, and be perfect.
But there is a problem with this. Children are not yet prepared for adulthood. They are still learning about the world because they are still learning about themselves.
The best example of this is the process of puberty. Puberty is a time when children become exposed to both an increase in hormones and an increase in emotions. When children go through puberty, they may feel anxiety, anger, or sadness.
However, many children don’t even know how to deal with these feelings because they have never experienced them before. Until age 13, most children have little experience with emotions and since they don’t know what they feel like until then there is nothing for them to compare it too. If you think about it, the child has no idea what “adult” should be like so there is nothing for them to emulate because nobody knows what that should be like.
People tend to say that hypervigilance keeps our children penned in from adulthood because it keeps them safe from danger but what really keeps them penned in is their inability to cope with the world around them. To grow up properly they need to learn how to deal with life by themselves without knowing what it should be like so that way when the real world comes at them they will know how to handle it properly
Source: How To Raise An Adult: Break Free Of The Overparenting Trap And Prepare Your Kid For Success
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