One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn't it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim "You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself" made clear sense. And I add, "Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself. Bell Hooks
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It’s important to be able to love yourself. When you love yourself, you feel good and you feel good about yourself and that is a motivation to do the things you want to do. If you don't love yourself then you can't love anyone else and if no one else loves you, then who will? By working on loving yourself some what it will help you be better with other people and more comfortable around them.

Source: All About Love: New Visions

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