There are many roles that people play and many images that they project. There is, for example, the "nice" man who is always smiling and agreeable. "Such a nice man, " people say. "He never gets angry." The facade always covers its opposite expression. Inside, such a person is full of rage that he dares not acknowledge or show. Some men put up a tough exterior to hide a very sensitive, childlike quality. Even failure can be a role. Many masochistic characters engage in the game of failure to cover an inner feeling of superiority. An outward show of superiority could bring down on them the jealous wrath of the father and the threat of castration. As long as they act like failures they can retain some sexuality, since they are not a threat to her father. . Alexander Lowen
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We all play many roles in life. At work, at school, at home, sometimes we act like the "nice guy" (or girl), always smiling and agreeable. Some people act tough to mask their inner feelings of anger and insecurity. Sometimes we play the role of a victim to keep others away from us because we fear that they will hurt us emotionally or physically.

And sometimes we play the role of an aggressor in order to feel superior over someone else. It is important to remember that there are no "victims." Victims are not weak because they are victims, but because they are weak. They are victims because they have chosen to be victims, not because being a victim is something they are intrinsically.

Some men put up a tough exterior to conceal their sensitive, childlike nature. Facing your fears helps you become strong. If you can't face your fears then you won't be able to grow into anything more than just another victim.

Source: Fear Of Life

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