In the mainstream, with its illusion of unlimited relational possibilities, we can counter dissatisfaction in relationships by simply moving on in search of the "right people." But community..demands we cultivate friendships with people we might not choose ordinarily. Founding friendship on commitment rather than "chemistry" often requires adjustment.. At the end of the day, however, we have found that any loss of chemistry in relationships is more than made up for with gains in meaning. Anonymous
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In the mainstream, with its illusion of unlimited relational possibilities, we can counter dissatisfaction in relationships by simply moving on in search of the "right people." But community...demands we cultivate friendships with people we might not choose ordinarily. Founding friendship on commitment rather than "chemistry" often requires adjustment...At the end of the day, however, we have found that any loss of chemistry in relationships is more than made up for with gains in meaning. This quote expresses the idea that many people tend to try and make friends with people they think will be compatible. This is something I believe is a mistake. If you meet someone who has no interest in you and doesn’t like you for who you are then it’s best to just move on to someone else.

People who become part of your life through your decision to connect to them and accept them into your world will always be special and there is no substitute for that kind of connection. You cannot force yourself into a relationship just because you feel like you should be connected to someone. Your feelings are not enough.

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