Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us. Like a chemical mixture, if one of us is changed, both of us will be. Will we grow in self-actualization, or will it destroy us? The one thing we can be certain of is that if we let ourselves fully into the relationship for good or evil, we will not come out unaffected. Rollo May
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Letting someone in can be a scary thing. Maybe they’re the one you want, but you’re not sure how they will change your life or make you feel. You might be afraid that they will judge you and make you uncomfortable. Or maybe it’s the other way around—you might be afraid that they won’t love you back if you trust them.

Regardless, the big risk is that it will change you. You might end up feeling vulnerable or exposed or embarrassed or vulnerable all over again. It is easy to feel vulnerable after letting someone in, but it’s good to remember that vulnerability is what allows intimacy to blossom and soaks every relationship full of strength and beauty.

Source: The Courage To Create

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