Gillian FlynnThere's a difference between really loving someone and loving the idea of her.
About This Quote
This is a simple and very familiar phrase, but it packs a powerful punch. This quote is about the difference between the feeling of love and the feeling of lust. Most people think that they love someone when in fact they are in love with them because of their looks, their charm, or because they manage to make them feel good about themselves. But what this quote is really saying is that you can be in love with an idea of someone rather than an actual person.
This means that you aren’t truly in love with the person, only with the idea of him or her. And while this may seem a bit harsh, it also shows that while this person may have been extremely hard to get rid of once you had him or her in your life, he or she was just a temporary distraction from you being happy.
Source: Gone Girl
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