If you spend your life sparing people’s feelings and feeding their vanity, you get so you can’t distinguish what should be respected in them.

F. Scott Fitzgerald
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If you spend your life sparing people's feelings and feeding their vanity, you get so you can't distinguish what should be respected in them. The idea of this quote is that if you treat people like they do not exist, such as by never addressing their needs, you can end up with a bunch of people who only care about what others think. This is a problem because if everyone only cared about how others feel, there would be no one to respect anyone.

Source: Tender Is The Night & The Last Tycoon

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