Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss. Meghan ORourke
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Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss. This is why some people find it easier to cope with death than others. People who are less attached to their partners may feel that their relationship had little meaning and they can move on more easily than those with a stronger bond and a stronger sense of self.

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