People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.

Gary Chapman
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This is a great explanation of why people tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. The same reason that we feel the most comfortable and know best how to handle something, we also tend to be critical of others when we can learn from them and want them to succeed. Which is great, until we get too critical. Now we're criticizing our spouse when they do exactly what they do best and what is making us feel good.

We need to recognize when we are being critical and when it's not even necessary. Everyone is different, so instead of judging how your spouse handles something, look at how you handle it yourself. Sometimes it may be a better way for you to handle an issue, but not always!

Source: The Five Love Languages: How To Express Heartfelt Commitment To Your Mate

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