Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two–love and controlling power over the other person–are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.

Rob Bell
About This Quote

The true meaning of love is what this quote is all about. It is giving up control about the person you love. This is the only way to go about loving someone because it requires you to not be like any other person who tries to control the relationship by self-expectation. Love is giving up control in order to not cause any harm or frustration with the person you love.

Source: Sex God: Exploring The Endless Connections Between Sexuality And Spirituality

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