Through positive thinking and related approaches, we seek the safety and solid ground of certainty, of knowing how the future will turn out, of a time in the future when we'll be ceaselessly happy and never have to fear negative emotions again. But in chasing all that, we close down the very faculties that permit the happiness we crave.Oliver Burkeman
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Positive thinking and related approaches, such as positive affirmations, can help us feel more confident and optimistic, but they can also lead us to believe we have power over the future. When we believe we can control what happens, we become afraid to fail or be rejected by others. We often try to prevent failure by holding onto our false beliefs and avoiding all things that might upset our sense of security and certainty. But in chasing all that, we close down the very faculties that permit the happiness we crave.
Source: The Antidote: Happiness For People Who Cant Stand Positive Thinking
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