Judith Lewis HermanThe conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.
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Trauma is a state of being that is characterized by two opposing forces. The will to deny horrible events, and the will to proclaim them aloud. When someone is in trauma, they are in a state where they are denying horrible events when they are happening, but when they are happening their mind is saying “No, I’m not going through this again! I’m not going to go through this again!”
Source: Trauma And Recovery: The Aftermath Of Violence From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror
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