In a brain scan, relational pain–that caused by isolation during punishment–can look the same as physical abuse. Is alone in the corner the best place for your child?

Daniel J. Siegel
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When you are punished, you feel the pain of the punishment. This is referred to as relational pain. When you are alone or separated from your peers, that pain can become amplified. You feel the pain of the punishment and then the pain of being alone and isolated even more. Relationships with peers can help ease that pain and prevent relational pain from becoming a problem.

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