Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family. When I have been through so much pain and hurt and have to live with the scars every day, I get angry knowing that others think it is all made up or they brush it off because my cousin was a teenager. I was ten when I was first sexually abused by my cousin, and a majority of my relatives have taken the perpetrator's side. I have cried many times about everything and how my relatives gave no support or love to me as a kid when this all came out. Not one relative ever came up to that innocent little girl I was and said "I am sorry for what you went through" or "I am here for you." Instead they said hurtful things: "Oh he was young." "That is what kids do." "It is not like he was some older man you didn't know." Why does age make a difference? It is a sick way of thinking. Sexual abuse is sexual abuse. What is wrong with this picture? It brings tears to my eyes the way my relatives have reacted to this and cannot accept the truth. Denial is where they would rather stay. Erin Merryn
About This Quote

This is a quote from the movie, The Help , in which you can see how people have different reactions to this type of situation. Some see it as a joke, some feel betrayed, some are angry, some are disgusted. You can take anything you hear or read at face value or you can interpret it your own way. If someone tells you that they are not being honest with you, try not to jump immediately to conclusions. Try to think about it calmly and use your intuition to decide if they are being truthful or not.

Source: Living For Today: From Incest And Molestation To Fearlessness And Forgiveness

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