In my work, I see couples who no longer wait for an invitation into their partner's interiority, but instead demand admittance, as if they are entitled to unrestricted access into the private thoughts of their loved ones

Esther Perel
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In this quote, the writer is talking about the importance of having a strong bond between two people. The goal being to have a place for each other in the other persons' mind. This quote is saying that you shouldn't have to wait for permission to have access to your partner's thoughts and feelings. Instead, you should be able to enter their mind when you want to.

Source: Mating In Captivity: Reconciling The Erotic And The Domestic

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