Yes, I am finally a match for Amy. The other morning I woke up next to her, and I studied the back of her skull. I tried to read her thoughts. For once I didn't feel like I was staring into the sun. I'm rising to my wife's level of madness. Because I can feel her changing me again: I was a callow boy, and then a man, good and bad. Now at last I'm the hero. I am the one to root for in the never-ending war story of our marriage. It's a story I can live with. Hell, at this point, I can't imagine my story without Amy. She is my forever antagonist. We are one long frightening climax. Gillian Flynn
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If you were to ask me what I am going through since the Amy incident, I would say this: I am rising to my wife’s level of madness. The Amy incident, though a major setback in our relationship, has actually put me on a new path that can ultimately lead to a happier ending. I have been through many hardships in the past and have developed a thick skin over time. However, this is the first time I have been faced with such a conflict within myself.

In this case, the conflict was between my desire to be happy and be with Amy versus my desire to remain faithful and loyal to my wife. This conflict has been so difficult for me because it is one thing to be alone and another thing entirely to be alone with someone you love dearly. The analogy of being risen to your level of madness was made by a man who didn't want to be alone anymore.

He knew that he was capable of being better than he was before but he also knew that he wasn't capable of being better than his wife. As a result, he knew that he had to rise above his level of madness and take charge of his life as an individual instead of as part of a couple as a couple who are supposed to complement each other.

Source: Gone Girl

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