I had no illusions about you, ' he said. 'I knew you were silly and frivolous and empty-headed. But I loved you. I knew that your aims and ideals were vulgar and commonplace. But I loved you. I knew that you were second-rate. But I loved you. It's comic when I think how hard I tried to be amused by the things that amused you and how anxious I was to hide from you that I wasn't ignorant and vulgar and scandal-mongering and stupid. I knew how frightened you were of intelligence and I did everything I could to make you think me as big a fool as the rest of the men you knew. I knew that you'd only married me for convenience. I loved you so much, I didn't care. Most people, as far as I can see, when they're in love with someone and the love isn't returned feel that they have a grievance. They grow angry and bitter. I wasn't like that. I never expected you to love me, I didn't see any reason that you should. I never thought myself very lovable. I was thankful to be allowed to love you and I was enraptured when now and then I thought you were pleased with me or when I noticed in your eyes a gleam of good-humored affection. I tried not to bore you with my love; I knew I couldn't afford to do that and I was always on the lookout for the first sign that you were impatient with my affection. What most husbands expect as a right I was prepared to receive as a favor. . W. Somerset Maugham
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This story is about a man who was always in love with his wife. He knew that her ideals and aims were vulgar and ordinary, but he loved her anyway. He knew that she was second-rate, but he loved her anyway. He knew that she was terrified of intelligence, but he loved her anyway.

And when she married him, he didn't expect anything in return for his love. He was happy to receive love in the same way that she expected him to be happy to give it. Most husbands expect their wives to be grateful for their affection and forgave them for not returning it.

However, the husband in this story followed the same pattern of behavior that has lead to many marriages failing. The next time you are in love with someone and your love isn't returned, don't act like they are bad people because they aren't giving you what you want or deserve. Instead, take note of your own failures and shortcomings and learn to make up for them by doing more than you would have done before you fell in love with this person.

Source: The Painted Veil

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