What made losing someone you loved bearable was not remembering but forgetting. Forgetting small things first.. it's amazing how much you could forget, and everything you forgot made that person less alive inside you until you could finally endure it. After more time passed you could let yourself remember, even want to remember. But even then what you felt those first days could return and remind you the grief was still there, like old barbed wire embedded in a tree's heartwood. Ron Rash
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In a poem, J.D. Salinger wrote, "The taste of ashes in the mouth – that is all that remains after a fire." In other words, what makes losing someone you love bearable is not remembering but forgetting. Forgetting small things first – it's amazing how much you can forget, and everything you forgot made that person less alive inside you until you could finally endure it. After more time passed you could let yourself remember, even want to remember. But even then what you felt those first days could return and remind you the grief was still there, like old barbed wire embedded in a tree's heartwood.

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