Feel, he told himself, feel, feel, feel. Even if what you feel is pain, only let yourself feel.

P.D. James
About This Quote

When we try to shut down our emotional pain, it only makes the problem worse. When we get angry or feel disappointment, we need to take notice and get through that emotion. We get angry, but we don’t let ourselves feel the anger for too long. We feel disappointed, but we don’t let ourselves get despondent for too long.

This is a dangerous game: if we feel and feel and feel and never stop feeling, we can become obsessive and fixated on our pain–no matter how intense it might be. But if we can focus on our feelings and know when to let them go, we can learn to live more freely and without fear.

Source: The Children Of Men

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