50 "Ufuoma Apoki" Quotes And Sayings

Ufuoma Apoki is the author of the best-selling book The Fixer, which has sold over one million copies worldwide. It was named to Amazon's Best Books of the Year in 2016. She also writes personal essays and essays for Women's Health magazine. Her work has appeared in The Guardian, The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Essence Magazine, and more Read more

Apoki is currently working on her next novel, an exploration of black female resilience.

Good intentions do not always suffice.
Good intentions do not always suffice. Ufuoma Apoki
One great concern that plagues very ambitious people is this: in the end, they’ll get all the precious things they ever dreamed of and every precious accomplishment most expected and conceived they’d achieve . but on that path of ambition, they’d lose precious moments with the most precious people they’ve come across. However, they forge ahead on that path hoping, somehow, they might make up for it, sometime, in future. . Ufuoma Apoki
We'd rather have a grand spectacle of retribution of the...
We'd rather have a grand spectacle of retribution of the 'wicked', than their silent walk towards redemption that our wishes questions the depth and nature of our love and hearts. Ufuoma Apoki
From the point in life when a man/woman is responsible...
From the point in life when a man/woman is responsible for his/her choices, he/she starts to live a story brought to life by the dreams that have been consciously or subconsciously conceived. Ufuoma Apoki
You can choose daily to brace up and face the...
You can choose daily to brace up and face the harsh realities of life .. . Or while away the days that come by daydreaming .. . Better still, you can make your dreams your realities. Ufuoma Apoki
Honesty can sometimes be so brutal to take in. It's usual to get so drowned in perceived idealism that you can't seem to separate it from honest reality. If, and when, you can separate the two, the gaiety of fantasy is destroyed Ufuoma Apoki
You don't always get your dreams come to you in FULL DEFINITION. It usually comes in bits and pieces of the picture you've conceived in your mind; but it certainly comes. And when it comes, even blurry in LOW DEFINITION, and you recognize it, all you've got to do is make a little tweaks here and there and then you can fine tune it to the BEST DEFINITION. You however, have to DREAM! Ufuoma Apoki
We see so much bad and evil that we forget there could still be good left, somewhere. If you think you deserve to be treated well, it’s a sign that there still so much good left. People only treat us as best as their ability allows them; if you deserve more, try as much as you can to treat them better. Ufuoma Apoki
Keep living the best you could possibly offer life. You might not literally change the world if that's your original dream, but you would change, inspire, and make a difference in one person's world with the best of your world. Then you'd realize the truth that, one is too many. That, my dear, is the right step in the direction of changing the world. Ufuoma Apoki
You can be beautiful, kind and, also, strong. Strength can...
You can be beautiful, kind and, also, strong. Strength can be shown in very many ways besides a sword or bow. Ufuoma Apoki
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One of the greatest purposes a man/woman can ever be indulged in is the positive evolution of self for the selfless service to humanity. Ufuoma Apoki
In listening lies great power. Many are expert in speaking (while everyone hears), adept in analyzing in bits and pieces, very prompt in commenting, and always ready to stamp judgement of 'right' or 'wrong'.Very few are skilled in listening, first, with the ears and, then, with the heart. Those who do hold true, sustainable, and great power. Ufuoma Apoki
And then, you just realise that everything you've ever needed to succeed just lies inside of you. You just really needed to look inside and draw from the strenght that lies inside. Nothing stands impossible at that very moment. You seem SUPERHUMAN! Ufuoma Apoki
If ANYTHING is meant to be, it will be ONLY if you work out the methodologies for it to be. Things just don't be because they work themselves out to be, or they want to be. They be because someone conceived them to be, and worked them out to be. Therefore, debunk the idea of leaving your THINGS to be in the fragile gamble of fate. MAKE THEM BE! Ufuoma Apoki
I try as much as possible to keep pushing myself beyond my limits, those set by myself, and those by others, to see how much lies within. He said nothing is impossible and I truly believe Him. Once in while I go beyond . More often than not, I get pretty burned and decline to tend to my sores in solitude, whilst trying the best I can to find out why I burned so bad. Other times, I surprise myself at the power within has been lying dormant probably out of ignorance or out of fear. Either ways, I learn . .And probably that is the most significant thing to be gleaned out of every experience. Ufuoma Apoki
For every decision a 'man' makes, he makes it with the best of the depth of knowledge he possess at that particular instant and the quality of experiences he's passed through. It's not an excuse though for mediocrity, but an avenue to learn, rise, and conquer your inefficient self. By inference, beyond an extreme line, there might not necessarily be a qualification of a choice as wrong or right, but an avenue to grow depending on how the intricacies of such a choice and its consequences are handled. Ufuoma Apoki
Sometimes, we get too keen and in a haste to make new relationships, learn new things, stumble upon new ideas .. .. Always tending to the unknown and easily excited by the mysterious, that we lose value for and forget to appreciate the things and people that have brought and kept us going this far. Keep the things and people which are sure, else they, too, become mysterious and unknown. Ufuoma Apoki
If you've been on this side, then you'll have more compassion and understanding for those still on this side when you get to the other side, because you know how it feels like to be on this side. Sometimes though, relief comes too sudden and good that we tend to lose our sense of empathy for those still on this side, and it's amazing how we've forgotten so soon how it felt like to be on this side. How would it have felt if you were treated the same way you treat those who are on this side by those who were on the other side, when you were still on this side, now that you are on the other side? . Ufuoma Apoki
When you have a good heart, kindness becomes a responsibility you take up. Ufuoma Apoki