63 Quotes & Sayings By Rupi Kaur

It was when I stopped searching for home within others and lifted the foundations of home within myself I found there were no roots more intimate than those between a mind and body that have decided to be whole. Rupi Kaur

Stayi whisperedas youshut the door behind you Rupi Kaur

To do list (after the breakup)1. take refuge in your bed2. cry. till the tears stop (this will take a few days).3. don’t listen to slow songs.4. delete their number from your phone even though it is memorized on your fingertips.5. don’t look at old photos.6. find the closest ice cream shop and treat yourself to two scoops of mint chocolate chip. the mint will calm your heart. you deserve the chocolate.7. buy new bed sheets.8. collect all the gifts, t-shirts, and everything with their smell on it and drop it off at a donation center.9. plan a trip.10. perfect the art of smiling and nodding when someone brings their name up in conversation.11. start a new project.12. whatever you do. do not call.13. do not beg for what does not want to stay.14. stop crying at some point.15. allow yourself to feel foolish for believing you could’ve built the rest of your life in someone else’s stomach.16. breathe. Rupi Kaur

What i miss most is how you loved me. but what i didn't know was how you loved me had so much to do with the person I was. it was a reflection of everything I gave to you. coming back to me. how did I not see that. how. did i sit here soaking in the idea that no one else would love me that way. when it was i that taught you. when it was i that showed you how to fill. the way i needed to be filled. how cruel i was to myself. giving you credit for my warmth simply because you had felt it. thinking it was you who gave me strength. wit. beauty. simply because you recognized it. as if i was already not these things before I met you. as if i did not remain these once you left. Rupi Kaur

I am watersoft enoughto offer lifetough enoughto drown it away Rupi Kaur

Your artis not about how many peoplelike your workyour art is aboutif your heart likes your workif your soul likes your workit's about how honestyou are with yourselfand you must never trade honesty for relatability Rupi Kaur

I am a museum full of artbut you had your eyes shut Rupi Kaur

My godis not as unreachable asthey'd like you to thinkmy god is beating inside us infinitely Rupi Kaur

What terrifies me most is how wefoam at the mouth with envywhen others succeedbut sigh in reliefwhen they are failingour struggle tocelebrate each other iswhat's proven most difficultin being human Rupi Kaur

I was musicbut you had your ears cut off Rupi Kaur

Most importantly lovelike it's the only thing you knowat the end of the day all this means nothingthis page where you're sitting your degree your jobyour money nothing even matters except love and human connectionwho you lovedand how deeply you loved themhow you touched the people around you and how much you gave them Rupi Kaur

My heart woke me crying last nighthow can i help i beggedmy heart said write the book Rupi Kaur

A daughter shouldnot have to beg her fatherfor a relationship Rupi Kaur

He placed his hands on my mind before reaching for my waist my hips or my lips Rupi Kaur

You tell me i am not like most girlsand learn to kiss me with your eyes closedsomething about the phrase - something abouthow i have to be unlike the womeni call sisters in order to be wantedmakes me want to spit your tongue out like i am supposed to be proud you picked meas if i should be relieved you thinki am better than them Rupi Kaur

I want to apologize to all the womeni have called prettybefore i've called them intelligent or bravei am sorry i made it sound as thoughsomething as simple as what you're born withis the most you have to be proud of when yourspirit has crushed mountainsfrom now on i will say things likeyou are resilient or you are extraordinarynot because i don't think you're prettybut because you are so much more than that . Rupi Kaur

Something about the phrase - something abouthow i have to be unlike the womeni call sisters in order to be wantedmakes me want to spit your tongue out Rupi Kaur

I love that about us how capable we are of feeling how unafraid we are of breaking and tend to our wounds with grace just being a womancalling myselfa womanmakes me utterly wholeand complete Rupi Kaur

Do not bother holding ontothat thing that does not want you-you cannot make it stay Rupi Kaur

How you love yourself ishow you teach othersto love you Rupi Kaur

Fall in lovewith your solitude Rupi Kaur

Every time you tell your daughteryou yell at herout of loveyou teach her to confuseanger with kindnesswhich seems like a good ideatill she grows up totrust men who hurt hercause they look so muchlike you- to fathers with daughters Rupi Kaur

I don't blame you for not knowing how to remain soft with me. sometimes i stay up thinking of all the places you are hurting which you'll never care to mention. i come from the same aching blood. from the same bone so desperate for attention i collapse in on myself. i am your daughter. i know the small talk is the only way you know how to tell me you love me. cause it is the only way i know how to tell you. . Rupi Kaur

The rape willtear youin halfbut it will notend you Rupi Kaur

You look at me and cryeverything hurtsi hold you and whisperbut everything can heal Rupi Kaur

Accept that you deserve more than painful love life is moving the healthiest thing for your heart is to move with it Rupi Kaur

Do not look for healingat the feet of thosewho broke you Rupi Kaur

If I knew what safety looked like, I would have spent less time falling into arms that were not Rupi Kaur

Our struggle to celebrate each other is what's proven most difficult in being human Rupi Kaur

People say things meant to rip you in half but you hold the power to notturn their words into a knifeand cut yourself Rupi Kaur

I thank the universe for takingeverything it has takenand giving to meeverything it is giving-balance Rupi Kaur

Fallin lovewith your solitude Rupi Kaur

Remind that boy your body is not his home he is a guest warn him to never outstep his welcome again Rupi Kaur

I need someonewho knows struggleas well as i dosomeonewilling to hold my feet in their lapon days it is too difficult to standthe type of person who givesexactly what i needbefore i even know i need itthe type of lover who hears meeven when i do not speakis the type of understandingi demand- the type of lover i need Rupi Kaur

He saysi am sorry i am not an easy person to wanti look at him surprisedwho said i wanted easyi don’t crave easyi crave goddamn difficult Rupi Kaur

You mustn't have to make them want you they must want you themselves Rupi Kaur

That is the thing about selfish people. theygamble entire beings. entire souls to please their own. one second they are holding you like the world in their lap and the next they have belittled you to a mere picture. a moment. something of the past. one second. they swallow you up and whisper they want to spend the rest of their life with you. but the moment they sense fear. they are already halfway out the door. without having the nerve to let you go with grace. as if the human heart means that little to them.and after all this. after all of the taking. the nerve. isn't it sad and funny how people have more guts these days to undress you with their fingers than they do pick up the phone and call. apologize. for the loss. and this is how you lose her.- selfish . Rupi Kaur

I always get myselfinto this messi always let himtell me i am beautifuland half believe iti always jump thinkinghe will catch me at the falli am hopelessly a lover anda dreamer and that will bethe death of me Rupi Kaur

The idea that we are so capable of love but still choose to be toxic Rupi Kaur

How cruel i was to myself. giving you credit for my warmth simply because you had felt it. thinking it was you who gave me strength. wit. beauty. simply because you recognized it. as if i was already not those things before i met you. as if i did not remain all these once you left. Rupi Kaur

When you are brokenand he has left youdo not questionwhether you wereenoughthe problem wasyou were so enoughhe was not able to carry it Rupi Kaur

Sex takes the consent of twoif one person is lying there not doing anythingcause they are not readyor not in the moodor simply don't want toyet the other is having sexwith their body it's not loveit is rape Rupi Kaur

If I body-shame a woman, it is more a reflection of me being critical of my body, me not being able to keep up to certain standards I have, and so making sure that the women around me feel the same way. Rupi Kaur

When writing for the page, the focus is on the design - how the words appear on the page. I try to make it as direct and simple as possible. Rupi Kaur

Really, at the end of the day, the only thing you can control is yourself; the only person you can truly educate is yourself. You have to redefine what beauty is to you so you can't be affected by what people are saying. Rupi Kaur

You have to really understand that although certain memories or stories make you sad, you are not sad. Pull yourself out from that emotion and remember that. Rupi Kaur

The topics just kind of come to me. If they are relevant, it's because they're happening in the world around me, and it's affecting me. Poetry is my way of dealing with it. Rupi Kaur

There was no market for poetry about trauma, abuse, loss, love, and healing through the lens of a Punjabi-Sikh immigrant woman. Rupi Kaur

I would give anything to sing like Beyonce or Adele. I've said many times to my friends that if I could sing like them, I would give up poetry and writing. Rupi Kaur

Poetry and art are key influences in changing how we look at taboos. Rupi Kaur

'Milk and Honey' was written with me being honest to myself, kind of pulling at the things that I hear the most and saying that out loud, and you know, that thing that we hear the most is most universal, and so that rings true with all folks. The language used in the poetry is extremely, extremely accessible. Rupi Kaur

For me, the power of the poetry in 'Milk and Honey' is the feeling you get after finished reading the poem. It's the emotion you feel once you've read the last word, and that is only possible when the diction is easy, and you don't get stuck on every other word, you don't know what the word means. Rupi Kaur

How do you redefine love when your idea of love is something that's so violent? When your idea of passion is anger, how do you fix that? Rupi Kaur

My dad studies and practices homeopathy and Ayurveda medicine. He's a strong believer in both honey and milk as forms of healing. Honey is the one food that does not die. It does not expire. Growing up, he'd always be mixing up almonds or turmeric or gram flower with milk to cure a cough or a cold. Rupi Kaur