93 Quotes & Sayings By Raphael Zernoff

Raphael Zernoff is the number one expert on the subject of the human brain and its connection to success. He is also an internationally recognized authority on stress and how it influences our lives. He is the founder of the world's first Stress Management Center at UCLA, where he teaches students and executives how to manage stress, anxiety, and depression. Raphael is an award-winning author who has authored numerous books, including The Power of Positive Affirmations, The Ultimate Mind Body Workout, and The Mind-Body Workout.

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When we say we understand something, but we do not experience it, we do not understand it. Understanding and experiencing are the same thing. For example, we may say: I understand the importance of forgiveness BUT I can't do it. Firstly, replace "I can't do it" with: I am choosing to remain in the state of being of ignorance (misinformation), because I believe it to be the best option I can choose from. Secondly, replace "I understand the importance of forgiveness" with:" I do not understand the importance of forgiveness". Being honest with oneself is the first step to self-understanding. Raphael Zernoff
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Think less and feel more and see what happens. Raphael Zernoff
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When we choose to operate on the frequency of compassion and kindness, we create, and reinforce our own reality, as filled with compassion and kindness. I refer here to the idea of unconditional compassion and kindness. It means that we can choose to react to any situation, as negative as it may seem to be, with kindness and understanding. Whenever someone chooses to be rude to us, there is no need for us to respond with rudeness. A moment of self-reflection can remind us that fire fought with fire only increases the heat. The more often we practice our conscious positive response, to any situation, our automatic negative reactions are gradually being replaced with a conscious decision to act in the most loving way we can conceive at the moment. Raphael Zernoff
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Whenever we decide to create a greater degree of change in our lives we need to start doing things differently. Any external change only reflects the inner transformation. Hence whenever we decide to change our lives, it does not happen through manipulation of the external reality. Any external change is a pure reflection of the inner change. We must change our perceptions, beliefs, feelings, thoughts, the way we talk and express ourselves, in order to see a significant change in our realities. It is all it takes. Raphael Zernoff
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When we understand who we are, and how our realities work, we can choose more consciously to shape our lives in an optimal way. Knowledge of oneself is the very key to a happy life. Happiness is not something outside of our own consciousness that needs to be earned, and achieved. It is a choice that needs to be supported by positive actions. It is not enough to say that we want to be happy. Our desire of happiness, love and peace, needs to be supported by our state of being. Raphael Zernoff
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When we choose to operate on the frequency of compassion and kindness, we create, and reinforce our own realities, as filled with compassion and kindness. Raphael Zernoff
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You are one and only creator of your reality. Even when you might think there is some external force out there creating it for you, it is just you. Raphael Zernoff
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Experiential reality is a pure reflection of your own state of being. You see what you believe. It is that simple. Raphael Zernoff
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My Personal Super Shortcut To Happiness- When you prefer to lighten up your self-awareness, allow yourself to focus on your strongest joy, passion, and excitement. It is something you can do at every moment of your life, whenever you become aware of not feeling well. Always choose, out of all available joys, passions and excitements, as small as they may be, whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Act on the joy you determine as the passion of the moment, and enjoy it as long as it is fun for you. When it stops being enjoyable or when there is something else, which you become aware of, as more pleasurable, do it. You do not need any reason to have in order to embrace what interests you. You do not need any reason either, to stop doing something in the middle, when it does not excite you anymore. Whatever you choose to follow as your joy, as small and insignificant as it may appear, have no expectations, how this little joy can take you to your big dreams. Enjoy it only because you like it, and not because you expect some specific outcome in the future. Raphael Zernoff
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There is always someone who cares for us and loves us. We may not always be aware of that yet we are very much needed and truly loved by the Universe. Everything that exists is needed, because what is not needed is not created. This is the way the Universe understands existence. When we let go of those people around us who are no longer compatible with our preference, which is love, peace and joy, we open the door to many new friends who love us for who we choose to be, and not for who they want us to be. Raphael Zernoff
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Any tiniest feeling, which fills you with peace and joy can grow to the size of a mountain, when you act on it with no expectation, where and how it must take you. Enjoy the moment of harmony and know that you can trust your Self. Raphael Zernoff
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Allow yourself to be alive every single day of your life. Raphael Zernoff
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Prayers likewise your positive thoughts can be based on gratitude and love. Raphael Zernoff
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We truly help others working on ourselves. When it comes from the knowledge that the only power we have is over our own choices, we do not struggle taking responsibility for what is not ours to be responsible for. When we choose to be happy our joy works like a lighthouse. The lighthouse does never guide ships to its own light. It always leads them to the safe harbour. Yet it is their choice, whether they want to follow the light or something else. Raphael Zernoff
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We may be focused on looking forward and upward yet looking inward can be the easiest path to take. Raphael Zernoff
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We can allow ourselves to pass through the darkest valley without losing our light. One candle can lit millions of other candles, which are willing to receive the light. Raphael Zernoff
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Answer the Call to Shine Your LightRight now there may be just few individuals who balance duality in unconditional love, but their unifying perception is very integrative. They live their lives in “Trinity” after they have expanded their understanding of “Duality”. There is no moral value judgment applied in their perceptions. The moral value judgment continually creates an illusion of separation and disconnection. A balanced consciousness, with no dual perception is very integrative and all inclusive. It expands at an enormous speed assisting others to perceive a myriad of different perspectives as different yet equally valid. Those individuals shine their light in the world as a sign of unity, harmony, and emotional balance. They are living witnesses to the reality of love, compassion, ease and joy. By their example others can choose to understand that life can be easy to live in one's preferred way without devaluing others' choices. They are those who lightened up carrying their bright match lit in a darkened room filled with fear and drama. . Raphael Zernoff
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There is no membership required for shining the light. Raphael Zernoff
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Feed yourself with the food of wisdom. Wisdom is recognised by joy and peace. When you allow your ways to be light you go high. When your path supports heaviness it weighs you down. Raphael Zernoff
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Being more self-aware means welcoming more light into a dull life. After the light is let in to our self-perceptions, we immediately realise that it always has been there, yet we created an illusion of darkness. Raphael Zernoff
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If you want to experience enlightenment, take a deep breath in and relax. As you are releasing the air forget, for a moment, about all your worries and desires. Just appreciate yourself the way you are in the very moment. Then, just lighten up. Keep doing it as often as you want to experience enlightenment. That is it. Raphael Zernoff
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Being more self-aware means welcoming more light into a dull life. When we throw light upon our self-perceptions, we immediately realise that the light has always been there, yet we had created an illusion of darkness. Raphael Zernoff
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Let go of everything that you hold onto, which does not serve you anymore. Be light, walk faster. Raphael Zernoff
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I may not know what is in store for me. However, I always know how I prefer to respond to my circumstances whatever they may be. Raphael Zernoff
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You do not have to be so serious about everything and everyone. Trust yourself. Trust your own guidance and do not take everyone's 'interesting opinions' so personally. Raphael Zernoff
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Romantic relationship is meant to be romantic, which means loving. If it is not any more you may ask yourself why you are still together. Raphael Zernoff
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Happiness is not something we can find. Happiness is a state of being. It is a choice we make at any particular moment. It is a feeling we can choose without any reason. Raphael Zernoff
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The path you walk is unique and needed. There is no other like yours. On your path you experience love, joy and peace, as well as loneliness, sadness and torment. These all are specific lessons you choose to rediscover your divine identity. Raphael Zernoff
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There is no real need to save others, because they will help themselves learning from us, when we choose to shine our light of unconditional love. Through our loving examples others can create, for themselves, an opportunity to act the way they are inspired by us. Raphael Zernoff
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You are the very creator and co-creator of your own reality. When you allow yourself to remember what you already know about yourself on the spirit level, you shine the light of unconditional love, compassion and understanding. You become more of who you truly are, when you choose compassion and kindness. It must start from being kind to yourself. Raphael Zernoff
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What is success? What does it mean that someone is successful? Success can be different things to different people. For us being successful is a conscious choice to be oneself. Success does not have to be dependent on any external circumstances and rules dictated by the mainstream society. It does not matter where we live and what we possess. When we love and support ourselves unconditionally choosing to be ourselves as much as we can, this is for us, Being Successful. Raphael Zernoff
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The world is focused on success, which is defined as riches and fame. Define your success as a person of values. Make love, compassion, and kindness your only success and everything else will be available to you. Raphael Zernoff
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There is no virtue in poverty and illness. we all have been created to be healthy and wealthy with more than enough for everyone. Raphael Zernoff
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Illumination is remembering your identity as the eternal spirit and energy that animates all that is. Raphael Zernoff
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For aeons past, there were many gods who descended to be humans, yet there were not many humans who ascended back to their divinity. Raphael Zernoff
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When we are in touch with our creativity, through passion and excitement, we always put ourselves in the most expansive state of consciousness. Fear slows down our development, while love supports a rapid growth. Raphael Zernoff
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The idea of death has been associated with the fear of the unknown, and the punishment or reward for our life choices. There is no punishment, and there is no reward. We punish ourselves instantly, when we choose to be destructive. We reward ourselves, when we choose being our loving selves. Raphael Zernoff
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Although others can devalue who we are and what we do it is entirely up to us, whether we accept or reject it. Whenever we disagree with the offered opinion we can thank for it and then move on. There is no need to prove at all that we have a different perception of ourselves from what we are being offered. Raphael Zernoff
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Helping OthersWhen we live our lives in happy, compassionate and constructive ways we set an example for others, which they may or may not choose to follow. There is no need for convincing anyone to what we know as good for us. Our actions always speak louder than words, as beautiful as they may be. Be yourself riding the wave of change, and you will lighten up assisting many others to do the same if this is what they prefer. . Raphael Zernoff
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Happiness is purely a chosen state of being available to all, at all times. I choose to be happy, because I am. Raphael Zernoff
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Missing HomeSometimes when we may experience a feeling of nostalgia, and a longing for our Home, it does not really mean that our Home is somewhere out there in the stars. It means that we start remembering our own divine Self. We miss, it and we want to be reconnected to what is truly ours. We always can, at any moment, turn to our hearts. When we raise the feeling of gratitude and appreciation for who we are, we know we are at Home. Raphael Zernoff
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A positive response to any situation is the key to the feeling of well-being. The more we practice it the easier it becomes. Gradually all automatic reactions are being replaced by a conscious response. When we know we are self-empowered, we take responsibility for our emotions. It is knowing that we have the ability to respond in a way we prefer. Raphael Zernoff
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We cannot perceive what we are not vibrationally a part of. We cannot be affected by an experience of evil, when we are focused on peace, harmony and love. Raphael Zernoff
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Everything with no exception is a choice. The choice can be either conscious or unconscious depending on the level of self-awareness. The more self-aware we become, the faster we can make our unconscious choices known to us. Raphael Zernoff
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People seek light in the external darkness Not knowing that the Light is within. Close your physical eyes and see with your inner vision. Open your eyes and see what before was invisible to you. Raphael Zernoff
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... And when the time comes to choose yet another dream, I shall smile knowing that I had a life with no less challenges than others, but I chose to respond to them with love. Raphael Zernoff
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When you allow yourself to remember that you truly are a multidimensional being, you will begin experiencing yourself in a much more expanded way. What previously was believed to be supernatural becomes natural. Then you come to a realisation that now you can see what has always been there yet it remained hidden to you who chose to see something else. Raphael Zernoff
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Sometimes saying goodbye to the ones you love can be the most appropriate thing to do in order to help them understand there are consequences for each and every choice we make. Raphael Zernoff
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Change your state of being and your experience will follow. Raphael Zernoff
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I am. I always was. I always am. I shall always be. The past and the futuremeet in the eternal now. I am the eternal now. I exist. I am. I am in the past. I am in the future. I am in the now. One is all, and all are one. We are one. Everything I see is a part of myself. Everything I can imagine is a part of myself. I could not imagine somethingthat is not. Everyone I interact withis a part of myself. Whatever I put out, I get it back. My state of being matters, it crystallises in my circumstances. The way I respond to my circumstancesreinforces my state of being. When I see an echo of an old belief I respond with peace in my heart. My actions are matched with the highest version of myself I can imagine in that moment. Everything changes, and everything transformsfrom one form of life to yet another. It is a constant flow of life. It is the heart of all existence. Nothing can perish, nothing can cease being. I am always new. I am always history free. I am always consequence free. Yet I can create an illusion of consequence. Everything is possible, yet not everything is probable. It all depends on my synchronicity. What I choose to exploreshall present itself to me. What I believe to be true, is true. All illusions are made out of different beliefs. Yet there is only one knowledge. It is the wisdom of old, yet new. The thought gains the power, when it merges with the feeling. I feel what I desire. I always receive what I ask for. I always manifest instantly with no effort. My wisdom is to be aware of what I request. So it be. So it is. I ask for love, and I welcome bliss. Raphael Zernoff
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The purpose of life is to live it being self-aware in the eternal now with its infinite versions of us. It is about living our dreams, and not just dreaming about living them one day. Raphael Zernoff
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Listen to your heart in silence and peace, as through fear you only channel fear. Raphael Zernoff
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When the heart sees injustice it turns to the perspective of oneness. It feels no need to produce a big speech to overcome its enemies. In silence it finds its peace. Raphael Zernoff
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Do not freak out when you lose your friends, partners, lovers, family, job and experience physical challenges. It is a temporary time of recalibration. It will balance itself out, when you allow your fears to transform in a loving way, as they now push to the surface seeking your recognition, and validation. Raphael Zernoff
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When you ask for assistance from your guides and the Masters of LightKnow that they already help you as much as they can. It is you who must come to meet them halfway. Do not ask them as if they had power to change your life. They only can guide you to be your own best guide. Raphael Zernoff
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When we follow our joy and excitement, being focused on what we love and appreciate, the change always unfolds with a great ease. Whenever we experience any tension in our transformations, it only indicates our resistance to the change. In fact, it is not the change itself that we resist. We resist ourselves. We resist becoming a more holistic person who is aware of our multidimensional nature. Raphael Zernoff
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The feeling itself is the language your Higher Self listens to. Raphael Zernoff
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Human life is designed as a self-study program. Existence is always one undivided. It is what we often call the Light. It is a pure consciousness of unconditional love. Out of the Light the idea of darkness is created. There is no existence of light and darkness, as separated energies. The separation is illusionary. Experiencing ourselves as humans is an exploration of the greater Self in a localised condition. A dense reality is created to facilitate the idea of forgetfulness. Now we collectively entered a new time of remembering. It is not necessary anymore to create the illusion of self-disconnection from the energy source. Raphael Zernoff
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The whole idea of awakening is about regaining self-trust. Through self-trust we remember how to be our own best guides. Raphael Zernoff
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Pushing away unwanted feelings and situations, equals inviting them to return back with a greater strength. Raphael Zernoff
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When we become aware of feeling low it can be a reason to rejoice. Why would we be distressed knowing that some unconscious negative belief is trying to get our attention. Let it surface. When we see what it is, it can be transformed into understanding and love.oops.. yet another fearful belief has been set free. Now we can enjoy ourselves eagerly anticipating yet another great self-rediscovery. Raphael Zernoff
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Being able to appreciate who we are and what we have in the now is an easy way to journey through this life. Raphael Zernoff
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Each conflict is self conflict. Raphael Zernoff
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We truly help others working on ourselves. When it comes from the knowledge that the only power we have is over our own choices, we do not struggle taking responsibility for what is not ours to be responsible for. When we choose to be happy our joy works like a lighthouse. The lighthouse does never guide ships to its own light. It always leads them to the safe harbour. Yet it is their choice, whether they want to follow the light or something else.- Raphael Zernoff . Raphael Zernoff
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When we let the energy of our existence flow freely, without being obstructed by fear, happiness finds its way into our daily lives. Raphael Zernoff
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We always stay on the optimal path, when we practice the power of allowance. Allow everything to happen the way it does. Respond to everything with love and understanding. Raphael Zernoff
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When our challenge persists, returning in different forms, it may be a sign for us to accepted it as a valuable lesson. Raphael Zernoff
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We have been pretending for a long time to be limited beings. Raphael Zernoff
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The new enlightened self-understanding reminds us that there is no final destination to our journey. The process itself is the destination. There is nowhere we need to arrive to. Raphael Zernoff
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The now reality is our only home, where everything already is. There is no other home we came from, and we might think we shall return to. Raphael Zernoff
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Everything is true for the person who believes it to be true. Raphael Zernoff
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There is more than enough for everyone. Any idea of lack and so its experience comes from fear. Fear powers greed, which encourages people to save for later just for themselves. Raphael Zernoff
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Life becomes much more easier when we do what we say and when we say what we do. Having courage to be ourselves is a gateway to freedom and happiness. Raphael Zernoff
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As much as love is the source of power for those who are centred in their hearts, as much fear is the source of illusionary power for those who insist on being led by their heads alone. Raphael Zernoff
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Prison is the only place, where Darwin's Theory of Evolution may seem to work. Survival of the fittest does only work, where the fittest is defined as the most loving. Raphael Zernoff
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There is no final destination to our journey. Raphael Zernoff
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You truly help others working on yourself. Remember that the only power you have is over your own choices. You simply have no power to choose for others unless they allow you to. Raphael Zernoff
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I am. I am grateful for my existence. I am grateful for being who I am. I know that what is, needs to be. I am grateful for knowing my divine nature. I am grateful for choosing to explore physicality. I am grateful for my choice of being, where I am. I am grateful for my choice of being kind and loving. I am grateful for all that I have, including those powers, which I am not aware of now, but I remember them in the eternal now. I am grateful for love and compassion I choose to act on. I am grateful for every being I interact with. I am grateful for all my creation. I am grateful for the perception of universal equality. I recognise everything and everyone as a reflection of one sourcewithin which all other sources are contained. I recognise myself as a part of oneness. I recognise myself as the source of my energy. I am grateful for our Mother Gaiawho feeds all her children. I am grateful for nourishing Gaiawith my joy and peace. I raise the feeling of gratitude within my loving heart. I allow the energy of gratitudeto lead all my stepsknowing that I am always led to lovewhen I practice love. Raphael Zernoff
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You are the only person who can make you happy and whole. You do not have another half out there waiting to be discovered. Raphael Zernoff
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Life is really simple. There are no complicated rules we must follow. There are no external forces, which dictate how we must lead our lives. There is no fate that prevents us from being who we want to be. We are the ones who often insist that life is complicated. Life is complex with its multidimensional nature. It is never complicated. All complications come from our fears, which we often choose to trust more than the voice of our hearts. Raphael Zernoff
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You can always choose how you prefer to respond to any external circumstances. Do not define your happiness by what is happening around you. Be happy only because this is what you enjoy doing. Raphael Zernoff
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Awakening is a different name for raising one's frequency. It is about becoming more aware of different perspectives, from which you may choose whatever you resonate with. Raphael Zernoff
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Find your freedom through questioning everything you hear and see. Be free to choose, from all possible perspectives and opinions, what builds love and harmony. Raphael Zernoff
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Karma does never return to punish. Its role is to assist with solving what has been left uncompleted. It always returns to you, when you are strong enough to look at it. You never are asked to deal with more than you can handle. So relax and accept what is being offered to you. Accept it as a gift of love. Raphael Zernoff
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We look for our perfect partners, and we wish we can be accepted the way we are. We seek unconditional love. It is all beautiful. While doing it we can always remember that we need to accept ourselves unconditionally, as much as we wish others to accept as with no conditions. Raphael Zernoff
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It is much easier to focus on what you like than on what you dislike. Raphael Zernoff
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The new expanded spirituality is all inclusive. It is inclusive, because it comes from unconditional love. In the concept of unconditional love there is no exclusion. Everything and everyone is seen as a part of oneself. It is a beautiful spirituality as the one who lives by its principles cannot by definition be a part of any conflict. Raphael Zernoff
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No one is ever lost. No one needs to be saved. Open your inner eyes and see it all existing in harmony and love. Raphael Zernoff
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You are more than capable of taking decisions about your own life. Raphael Zernoff
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Accept what makes you happy and pay no attention to fearful beliefs no matter who they come from. Raphael Zernoff
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Most of beliefs that are commonly known as scientific facts are based on various theories, which have never been validated. Many of them will never be. Question your beliefs. Choose what promotes love and unity. Raphael Zernoff
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What you see as not needed Will return until you see that it needs to be. What you accept as needed Needs not to remain unless you enjoy it to be. Raphael Zernoff