39 Quotes & Sayings By Olaotan Fawehinmi

Olaotan is a writer, an author and a motivational speaker from Nigeria. His work has been featured in bestselling magazines like Ebony, The List, Vogue, Essence, Huffington Post, Black Enterprise and many more. He is the author of the best-selling book "The Secret of the Better Sex" (2015). He is also the founder of Black Excellence Magazine.

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Success, Bill Gates said, is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose. Same goes for good looking people. Beauty reduces the consciousness that it takes more to catch the heart of the right partner. We often think being good at one thing is all we need to succeed, but hey, success is less of what you are good at, but more of what you are good for. Of what use is beauty with no brains, culture without character, knowledge that does not impact, or skill that does not add value? For any seemingly "good" thing to last, great attention we must pay to the unseen intrinsic component that sustains it. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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They say "the taste of the pudding is in the eating, " but that doesn't apply to "a square peg in a round hole". If the peg is driven by hunger to give and desire to fill, and the hole on the other hand is moved by thirst to receive and purpose to fulfil, then a deep knowledge of the reason for existence, a mutual understanding of roles, and the wisdom to effectively carry out those roles are very key, if we must have a round peg in a round hole, or a square peg in a square hole. But then again, who cares about "shape" in desperation?! . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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We will not always be here, so let's make the best use of what we have, when we still have it. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Friendship! That bond shared, not with the one you see every day but with the one that has got your back any day. Well, that seems so hard to find these days. So just be the best friend to yourself until you have found a best friend like yourself. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Rules are made to be broken, but hearts are broken to be made. It is a big miracle to be loved "because" of your inadequacies, not "despite" them. And nothing can be as fascinating as walking tall on the same road that once witnessed your fall. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Taking the Right Decision in any situation only requires TWO major ingredients: Critical Thinking and Grace.Critical Thinking is like 'Works' and Grace is like 'Faith'. So if "Faith without Works is dead, " then same, I believe, goes for Works without Faith.Like the two sides of a coin, one without the other just won't make any sense. And if the coin ever has a third side, it will never be 'Emotions' or 'Sentiments' because they both have zero IQ. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Time waits for no man" but no man dares not wait for "his Time.""Love is patient" but Time is not, yet it takes Time to find Love.Love they say, is blind. Because it "covers a multitude of sins?" To Love we should unwind, tell me when was the last Time.Love is steep; in no Time you fall in it. Time is free, howbeit, a sacrifice to spend with Love.The more Love fills the heart, the Less Time to mind.. Yet, the same Time heals the heart when Love breaks it. Yay, the friendly enmity between Time and Love.Embrace it, only if you can! . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Writing barely differs from Talking and Reading. It appoints your hand while they engage your mouth and eyes respectively. The trio need the mind to combine sensible words from a meaningful arrangement of the ‘simple’ A B C to Z. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When that little clock on my wall says “Olaotan! Olaotan! ! Olaotan! ! ! It’s half past time to write”, I only have three things at my disposal: A pen, A piece of paper, and a crowded mind. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Nothing matures a Man like RESPONSIBILITIES, Nothing humbles him like MISSED OPPORTUNITIES, What makes him are his CHOICES, And nothing changes him like LOVE.Nothing defines a Man like his CHARACTER, Nothing teaches him like his EXPERIENCE, What drives him is his VISION, And nothing weakens him like BETRAYAL.Nothing scares a Man like losing his EGO, Nothing pursues him like his PASSION, What interests him is his GAME, And nothing intoxicates him like his DESIRES.But above all, NOTHING FAVOURS A MAN LIKE FINDING A GOOD WOMAN. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Character is like 'Structural Integrity' in the field of engineering. A construction is believed to have structural integrity when it can withstand 'impact' from anywhere and anything, functioning adequately for its desired purposes and service life, until a physical collapse proves otherwise.' Integrity' springs from the original Latin root 'integrum', which means "Intact".A man has INTEGRITY when he remains INTACT, despite the IMPACT of forces that seek to sidetrack him. He will never confuse "what is" with "what ought to be", EVEN WHEN "what is" will work in his favour. A man who will choose, not what the world forces his hands to choose, but what aligns with his destiny and will propel him to become what he is meant to become. Such men are few, such men should be me and you. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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The 'Dance of Love' is much more of a dialogue, one takes the lead and the other follows. One dictates a step and the other carries it out. One determines the direction, the other determines the distance travelled in a given figure. One sets the pace, the other reveals the grace. One understands the language of the other and knows what is coming next. The one leading leads with love and respect; never seeing the follower as being weak or inferior. And in the same manner, the one following follows with Trust and Submission; never feeling too big to be led or scared to jump. There is a blind assurance that someone is there to catch. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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A male-female close-friendship hardly differs from a relationship; it takes "relating" to be friends. But sadly, not every relationship has friendship in it. It's just ironical that two people who are not good enough to be best friends are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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There isn't much difference between "giving" and "leaving". While the former will ALWAYS come back to you, the latter will only do if it was meant to be yours in the first place. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Loving is giving and being loved is receiving. Loving should not depend on being loved, but to all intents andpurposes, your commitment in a relationship is grossly expressed by how much of yourself you share with your partner. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When you truly love someone, his/her weaknesses are not meant to be discussed with other people, they are meant to be understood by you. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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The 'dance of love' has different themes and moods, just like every relationship has its highs and lows. Enjoy the high moments and hang-on during the downtimes. The diverse range of emotions is the experience that builds you two. Your ability to perfectly switch between these moments and make the best out of the one you find yourself per time, proves that you are not only involved in the relationship like the chicken is in the business of making eggs but also very committed to it like the pig is in the business of making bacon. . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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If there is “better”, then there is a “best”. If there is “half”, then there is a “complete”. Far more than being a “better half”, you can be a “best complete”; like a word/phrase that beautifies and gives meaning to a sentence when it is added. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When someone cannot do without you, don't think he/she is weak. When he/she loves you, don't take that for granted. Experience has thought me that we all have the power to fall out of love at the same pace we fall in it. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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It takes a CONSTANT flowing of gas from the cylinder to keep the fire burning under your pot. “WOOING your woman” should be a continuous process. It should NEVER end after you get your “yes” from her. If you did a lot to get her, you should do more to keep her. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When you look back and realize there is no way you would have had a better life with another person, that's when the relationship or marriage becomes worth it. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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You can never be happily married to the one you are not happily in-a-relationship with. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Best (male-female) friends hardly differ from lovers, but not too many lovers are best friends. It's just ironical that you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is not good enough to be your best friend. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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To be Outstanding is to do the same thing others have done in a different way. But to STAND-OUT is to do what no one has ever done before. Being outstanding is good, but STANDING-OUT is better. So Dream, Explore, Discover, and Stand Out! ! ! Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Once upon a time, a wise man said, "I have nothing to say! " Wisdom does not always talk, it talks at the right time, saying the right words. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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If you don't need what you really want, you can barely want what you really need. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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A good wife is Royal in Heart. She is a crown to her husband, and pride to the home where she was raised. She is called a W.I.F.E because she is a Woman In Full Effect. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Experience has thought me that there is only one short step between Love and Hate, as there is between Life and Death. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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A man protects his fish from rats by keeping it under a cat's watch. How wise! Another buys a gun for security reasons, but decides to kill a ghost with it. How smart! One prays to God for safety, as he climbs a palm tree with sewing thread. How intelligent! Man does not want the truth, and God does not want lies, yet there is no third option. One pretends to be rich, yet has nothing. That's pride. Another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth. Humility! Not all that glitters is gold, and not all gold glitters. Watch, with the eyes, and also with the heart. Just because all things are lawful, don't make them expedient. And because a thing is right doesn't mean it edifies. With Faith, Wisdom comes highly recommended! . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When someone says "I Love You, " it is imperative that you know if you are loved for "WHAT you are" or "WHO you are." When the academic qualifications, professionals, positions, possessions, good look, fat bank accounts and all that has been acquired over the years are taken away, all that is left is "Who you are" - Your Personality (character, values, perceptions.)" We are never truly loved, until we are loved for WHO and not WHAT we are . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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We are made by the choices we make. We are defined, not by how or where we were born but what we make out of the "where" and "how"; not much of how we started but more of how we decide to end. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Love ceases to be a Puzzle the Moment you find the Missing Piece. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Sequel to Albert Einstein's quote "education is what remains after you have forgotten what you learned in school, " beauty is what remains inside a body after it has wrinkled. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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One of the very striking life lessons from Game of Thrones.When Arya was blind; hopeless and helpless. The Waif lured her into multiple stick fights and the Waif would promptly beat Arya in every sparring match. But through those stick fight, Arya learned to cope with her blindness and how to fight “in the dark.” After Arya had regained her sight and Jaqen had granted the Waif’s wish to kill Arya. Arya confronted the Waif in a hideout and put out the only light in the room. Arya best the Waif due to her proficiency in fighting without sight (which, ironically, was trained by the Waif). Arya killed her adversary. O N E THING ABOUT CHALLENGES IN LIFE IS: THROUGH THEM, WE LEARN HOW TO OVERCOME THEM. Always Pay Attention! . Olaotan Fawehinmi
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When we step in the name of love, we cannot rhyme if we don't have the same RHYTHM, and we cannot have the same rhythm if we are not listening to the same BEAT.It takes someone who understands the rhythm and melody of your "heartbeat" to dance to it. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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A Child raised in the Mud should never point an accusing finger at a Pig. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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Given a test question, every wrong answer you eliminate from options A - E increases your chances of getting the right answer by 20percent.The more you identify what you should not be doing, the closer you get to the things you should do. Olaotan Fawehinmi
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DON'T DIE FOR ANYONE! ! ! You should rather live to love someone than die to prove it. Olaotan Fawehinmi