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When God knows you're ready for the responsibility of commitment, He'll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.Joshua Harris
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The right thing at the wrong tme is the wrong thing.Joshua Harris
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‎True love isn't expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.Joshua Harris
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The world takes us to a silver screen on which flickering images of passion and romance play, and as we watch, the world says, “This is love.” God takes us to the foot of a tree on which a naked and bloodied man hangs and says, “This is love.Joshua Harris
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We can't change by fancy methods. We can't change by mere willpower. But God's Spirit working in us can help us to "will and to act according to his good purpose" (Philippians 2:13).Joshua Harris
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And He was the one who invented marriage so that the blazing fire of romantic love could become something even more beautiful - a pulsing, red-hot ember of covenant love in marriage. Why did He do it? For the same reason that He made sunsets and mountain ranges and fireflies! Because He's good. Because He wants to give us a million different opportunities to see just how wonderful He is.Joshua Harris
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Just because lips have met doesn't mean hearts have joined. And just because two bodies are drawn to each other doesn't mean two people are right for each other. A physical relationship does not equal love.Joshua Harris
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We should never use spiritual activities as a way to grab for more intimacy than is appropriate for our relationship.Joshua Harris
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The best relationships are between two people who care more about each other's good than their own momentary pleasure.Joshua Harris
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Women need to remember that if nature has made them plain, grace can make them beautiful, and if nature has made them beautiful, good deeds can add to their beauty. Grace will make you beautiful and will attract truly godly men to you. Make godliness and inward beauty your priority.Joshua Harris
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In fact, the Bible tells us that the union of man and woman in marriage points to the climatic final scene - when Christ returns for His church, the bride He died to save (Ephesians 5:31-32).Joshua Harris
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During courtship, guarding each other's purity and refraining from intimacy are the acts of lovemaking.Joshua Harris
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A Woman's QuestionDo you know you have asked for the costliest thing Ever made by the Hand above? A woman's heart, and a woman's life--- And a woman's wonderful love. Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing As a child might ask for a toy? Demanding what others have died to win, With a reckless dash of boy. You have written my lesson of duty out, Manlike, you have questioned me. Now stand at the bars of my woman's soul Until I shall question thee. You require your mutton shall always be hot, Your socks and your shirt be whole; I require your heart be true as God's stars And as pure as His heaven your soul. You require a cook for your mutton and beef, I require a far greater thing; A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts--- I look for a man and a king. A king for the beautiful realm called Home, And a man that his Maker, God, Shall look upon as He did on the first And say: "It is very good." I am fair and young, but the rose may fade From this soft young cheek one day; Will you love me then 'mid the falling leaves, As you did 'mong the blossoms of May?Is your heart an ocean so strong and true, I may launch my all on its tide? A loving woman finds heaven or hell On the day she is made a bride. I require all things that are grand and true, All things that a man should be; If you give this all, I would stake my life To be all you demand of me. If you cannot be this, a laundress and cook You can hire and little to pay; But a woman's heart and a woman's life Are not to be won that way.Joshua Harris
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True love isn’t just expressed in passionately whispered words oran intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love isexpressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.Joshua Harris
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In the past, the starting point of my relationships was what Iwanted instead of what God wanted. I looked out for my needs andfit others into my agenda. Did I find fulfillment? No, I found onlycompromise and heartache. I not only hurt others; I also hurt myself, and most seriously, I sinned against God.Joshua Harris
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I won't pretend that I've arrived at humble orthodoxy. When I gain a bit of theological knowledge, I all too frequently get puffed up with pride. But I'll tell you what deflates my arrogance and self-righteousness faster than anything else: trying to live whatever truth I have.Joshua Harris
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The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.Joshua Harris
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As I see it, dating is a product of our entertainment-driven, disposable-everything American culture... Love and romance became things people could solely enjoy for their recreational value.Joshua Harris
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Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God has loved us.Joshua Harris
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Having a girlfriend was no longer my greatest need. Knowing and obeying Him was . I wanted to please Him in my relationships even if it meant looking radical and foolish to other people - even if it meant kissing dating goodbye.Joshua Harris
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We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pulls us in the wrong direction.Joshua Harris
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...for Christians typical dating can often be a swerver - an approach to relationships that wants to go in a different direction than the one God has for us.Joshua Harris
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Intimacy without commitment, like icing without cake, can be sweet, but it ends up making us sick.Joshua Harris
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Dating now is a lot like going shopping when you don't have any money. Even if you find the right thing, you can't do anything about it.Joshua Harris
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I'm not saying dating is sinful, and I'm not saying a guy and a girl should never spend time alone together. I'm saying let's wait until we can be purposeful, so there's a reason behind our relationship, and we're not just stirring up passion for the sake of a good time.Joshua Harris