90 Quotes & Sayings By Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie was born in 1888, in Missouri. He received a bachelors degree from Emporia State Teachers College. In 1911 he moved to Denver, Colorado, where he taught English and coached baseball for the Denver Public Schools as well as worked as a newspaper reporter. In 1918 he published "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Carnegie went on to publish more than two dozen books over his lifetime Read more

His book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living was a best-seller for more than 50 years. Today he is one of the most quoted and influential people of the 20th century.

It isn't what you have or who you are or...
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It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it. Dale Carnegie
Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid...
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Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you. Dale Carnegie
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One of the tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
It isn't what you have, or who you are, or...
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It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. Dale Carnegie
You can measure the size of a person by what...
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You can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry Dale Carnegie
A man convinced against his will Is of the same...
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A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still Dale Carnegie
There is only one way under high heaven to get...
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There is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it . Dale Carnegie
If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve...
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If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will. Dale Carnegie
When two partners always agree, one of them is not...
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When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary." If there is some point you haven't thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention. Dale Carnegie
Success is getting what you want.. Happiness is wanting what...
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Success is getting what you want.. Happiness is wanting what you get. Dale Carnegie
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Everybody in the world is seeking happiness–and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. Dale Carnegie
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Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely upon what you think. Dale Carnegie
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Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think. So start each day by thinking of all the things you have to be thankful for. Your future will depend very largely on the thoughts you think today. So think thoughts of hope and confidence and love and success. Dale Carnegie
Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some...
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Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours. Dale Carnegie
Your smile is a messenger of your good will.
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Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Dale Carnegie
You can dramatize your ideas in business or in any...
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You can dramatize your ideas in business or in any other aspect of your life. It’s easy Dale Carnegie
If you're wrong, admit it!
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If you're wrong, admit it! Dale Carnegie
People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they...
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People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing. Dale Carnegie
Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the...
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Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success. Dale Carnegie
When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with...
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When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity. Dale Carnegie
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I...
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Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you. Dale Carnegie
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Students of public speaking continually ask, "How can I overcomeself-consciousness and the fear that paralyzes me before anaudience?" Did you ever notice in looking from a train window that somehorses feed near the track and never even pause to look up at thethundering cars, while just ahead at the next railroad crossing afarmer's wife will be nervously trying to quiet her scared horse asthe train goes by? How would you cure a horse that is afraid of cars–graze him in aback-woods lot where he would never see steam-engines orautomobiles, or drive or pasture him where he would frequently seethe machines? Apply horse-sense to ridding yourself of self-consciousness andfear: face an audience as frequently as you can, and you will soon stop shying. You can never attainfreedom from stage-fright by reading a treatise. A book may giveyou excellent suggestions on how best to conduct yourself in thewater, but sooner or later you must get wet, perhaps even strangleand be "half scared to death." There are a great many "wetless"bathing suits worn at the seashore, but no one ever learns to swimin them. To plunge is the only way. . Dale Carnegie
It never hurts a fool to appear before anaudience, for...
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It never hurts a fool to appear before anaudience, for his capacity is not a capacity for feeling. Dale Carnegie
You can make more friends in two months by becoming...
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You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Dale Carnegie
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I instantly saw something I admired no end. So while he was weighing my envelope, I remarked with enthusiasm: "I certainly wish I had your head of hair." He looked up, half-startled, his face beaming with smiles. "Well, it isn't as good as it used to be, " he said modestly. I assured him that although it might have lost some of its pristine glory, nevertheless it was still magnificent. He was immensely pleased. We carried on a pleasant little conversation and the last thing he said to me was: "Many people have admired my hair." I'll bet that person went out to lunch that day walking on air. I'll bet he went home that night and told his wife about it. I'll bet he looked in the mirror and said: "It is a beautiful head of hair." I told this story once in public and a man asked me afterwards: "'What did you want to get out of him?" What was I trying to get out of him! ! ! What was I trying to get out of him! ! ! If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can't radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return - if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve. Dale Carnegie
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If I knew your thoughts, I would know what you are, for your thoughts make you who you are. By changing our thoughts, we can change our lives. Dale Carnegie
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You can make more friends in two months by being interested in other people than in two years of trying to get people interested in you. Dale Carnegie
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Today is life-the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Dale Carnegie
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Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truthor merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction onethat will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my opponents further awayor draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situationan opportunity for me? . Dale Carnegie
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By becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect. Dale Carnegie
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As much as we seek approval, we dread condemnation Dale Carnegie
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By talking to yourself every hour of the day, you can direct yourself to think thoughts of courage and happiness, thoughts of power and peace. By talking to yourself about the things you have to be grateful for, you can fill your mind with thoughts that soar and sing. Dale Carnegie
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Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want. Dale Carnegie
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I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: "He is nothing but a boy -- a little boy! Dale Carnegie
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Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If youwant to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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Live an active life among people who are doing worthwhile things, keep eyes and ears and mind and heart open to absorb truth, and then tell of the things you know, as if you know them. The world will listen, for the world loves nothing so much as real life. Dale Carnegie
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The firstsign of greatness is when a man does not attempt to look and actgreat. Before you can call yourself a man at all, Kipling assuresus, you must "not look too good nor talk too wise. Dale Carnegie
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We are gods in the chrysalis. Dale Carnegie
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SMILE! ! ! ! ! TODAY is the TOMORROW you worried about YESTERDA"Y Dale Carnegie
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Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. Dale Carnegie
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If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep. Dale Carnegie
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When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. Dale Carnegie
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I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do."(..) You can say that and be 100 percent sincere, because if you were the other person you, of course, would feel just as he does (..) Suppose you had inherited the same body and temperament and mind (..) Suppose you had had his environment and experiences. You would then be precisely what he was - and where he was. For it is those things -and only those things - that made him what he was. (..) You deserve very little credit for being what you are - and remember, the people who come to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Dale Carnegie
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Once you take the time to consider the other person's perspective, you will become sympathetic to his feel ins and ideas. You will be able to authentically and honestly say, "I don't blame you for feeling as you do. If I were in your position, I would feel just as you do. Dale Carnegie
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Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn–and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Dale Carnegie
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Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word "but", which signals that the criticism is about to begin. This may make the listener questions the sincerity of the praise. Use "and" instead, and provide constructive advice rather than criticism. this is possibly the most effective ways to address an issue in written form without seeming false in your praise. Dale Carnegie
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Let's realise that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let's realise that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself o herself, and condemn us in return. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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Even god doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I? Dale Carnegie
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The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener– a listener who will be silent while the irate fault-finder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system. Dale Carnegie
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Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work youbelieve in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you willfind happiness that you had thought could never be yours. Dale Carnegie
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Flaming enthusiasm backed up by horse sense and persistence is the quality that most frequently makes for success. Dale Carnegie
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When fate hands you a lemon make lemonade. Dale Carnegie
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You can make more friends in two months by becoming more interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you. Dale Carnegie
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If only the people who worry about their liabilities would think about the riches they do possess they would stop worrying. Would you sell both your eyes for a million dollars ... or your two legs ... or your hands ... or your hearing? Add up what you do have and you'll find that you won't sell them for all the gold in the world. The best things in life are yours if you can appreciate yourself. Dale Carnegie
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Do things for others and you'll find your self-consciousness evaporating like morning dew. Dale Carnegie
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Many people think that if they were only in some other place or had some other job they would be happy. Well that is doubtful. So get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don't put off being happy until some future date. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to be happy set yourself a goal that commands your thoughts liberates your energy and inspires your hopes. Happiness is within you. It comes from doing some certain thing into which you can put all your thought and energy. If you want to be happy get enthusiastic about something. Dale Carnegie
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When ill luck besets us to ease the tension we have only to remember that happiness is relative. The next time you are tempted to grumble about what has happened to you why not pause and be glad that it is no worse than it is? Dale Carnegie
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Live in day-tight compartments. Dale Carnegie
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Act as if you were already happy and that will tend to make you happy. Dale Carnegie
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All life is a chance. So take it! The person who goes furthest is the one who is willing to do and dare. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to conquer fear don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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All of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
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'Let us not get so busy or live so fast that we can't listen to the music of the meadow or the symphony that glorifies the forest. Some things in the world are far more important than wealth one of them is the ability to enjoy simple things. Dale Carnegie
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You can close more business in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you. Dale Carnegie
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Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude. Dale Carnegie
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Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed. Dale Carnegie
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Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. Dale Carnegie
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Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment. Dale Carnegie
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One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
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Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves. Dale Carnegie
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Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have it depends solely on what you think. Dale Carnegie
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The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping . Dale Carnegie
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Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire. Dale Carnegie
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The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Dale Carnegie
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Your purpose is to make your audience see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt. Relevant detail, couched in concrete, colorful language, is the best way to recreate the incident as it happened and to picture it for the audience. Dale Carnegie
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Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. Dale Carnegie
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If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
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Fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind. Dale Carnegie
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You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind. Dale Carnegie
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Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it... that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear. Dale Carnegie
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Each nation feels superior to other nations. That breeds patriotism - and wars. Dale Carnegie
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The essence of all art is to have pleasure in giving pleasure. Dale Carnegie
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Applause is a receipt, not a bill. Dale Carnegie
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The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way. Dale Carnegie
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Flaming enthusiasm, backed up by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success. Dale Carnegie
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You never achieve success unless you like what you are doing. Dale Carnegie