124 Quotes & Sayings By Carlos Wallace

Carlos Wallace (born January 20, 1948) is an American writer and researcher. He is best known for his work in the field of applied psychology. He has written several books, including the New York Times bestseller The Seven Laws of Closing the Sale and The Seven Laws of Team Leadership. He also founded and was the president and CEO of The Center for Creative Leadership (CCL), a global management training and research institute, which he sold to leadership coach and author John Maxwell in 1996.

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No one makes it to the "top" by themselves. Each step you take is guided by at least one person's blood, sweat and tears. Appreciate those who stand behind you as you rise. They are the only ones who will catch you if you fall. The ladder of success is steadiest when someone's there to support it. Carlos Wallace
Happiness will never flourish in a life bereft of optimism.
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Happiness will never flourish in a life bereft of optimism. Carlos Wallace
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In a relationship, prudent application of the gray theory is a key ingredient in assuring years of happiness; “till death do us part”. Balance is at the center of success, satisfaction and a lifetime of love. Carlos Wallace
I understand (finally) that God does not REACT to prayers...
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I understand (finally) that God does not REACT to prayers or petitions. He has ACTED. It is already done. Carlos Wallace
Why trade definite for a maybe?
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Why trade definite for a maybe? Carlos Wallace
Words, and faith, will only take you as far as...
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Words, and faith, will only take you as far as your actions allow. Carlos Wallace
Success is determined by how little time you have to...
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Success is determined by how little time you have to worry whether others are criticizing you, while being too focused to address them if they are. Carlos Wallace
Depending on the strength of the relationship, level of communication...
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Depending on the strength of the relationship, level of communication and one’s tolerance for discord, many people are able to get past normal skirmishes unscathed. Carlos Wallace
Stop giving the best part of you to those unworthy...
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Stop giving the best part of you to those unworthy of that gift. Carlos Wallace
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Some relationships require you have a big appetite. Chances are, at some point, you may have to swallow your pride, eat your words, lick your wounds, and stomach a lot of nonsense. While a little humble pie never hurt anyone you do have control over how much of this menu you get served and can always decide when you've had your fill. Carlos Wallace
In relationships, everyone makes mistakes. If you are forgiven for...
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In relationships, everyone makes mistakes. If you are forgiven for yours, don't take it for granted. Carlos Wallace
Truth be told, many couples spend more time planning the...
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Truth be told, many couples spend more time planning the wedding and the honeymoon than they do preparing for the marriage. Carlos Wallace
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Turbulence during a relationship does not mean its core, foundation and essence changes. Couples will run into obstacles. The challenge may knock the wind out of them, but it does not have to cripple their resolve. Both people must trust that on the other side of crisis still exist the qualities you appreciate. Carlos Wallace
Trying to change someone to suit your desires is a...
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Trying to change someone to suit your desires is a setup for disappointment. Carlos Wallace
No one should gain access to the important areas of...
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No one should gain access to the important areas of your life if you are not absolutely sure they are there for good reason. Carlos Wallace
No matter how worldly I became, there was always that...
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No matter how worldly I became, there was always that one part of me that never forgot where I came from and how simple life was there. Carlos Wallace
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Ultimately, it’s about determining what matters most to you; what’s important; what it will take to achieve your intended goal. And once you’ve identified these key components to growth, shed the excess; do away with the unnecessary. Carlos Wallace
Don't let life's challenges discourage you. Some things are just...
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Don't let life's challenges discourage you. Some things are just out of your control. Make it work for you! The most painful lessons of the past can teach you how to survive in the present . Carlos Wallace
Don't be managed by the likelihood of mishaps. Be motivated...
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Don't be managed by the likelihood of mishaps. Be motivated by the promise of favor! Carlos Wallace
Never let fear of short term heartache interfere with your...
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Never let fear of short term heartache interfere with your long term happiness. Carlos Wallace
Nothing will ever be solved if we wallow in the...
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Nothing will ever be solved if we wallow in the darkness of denial. Carlos Wallace
Keep your eyes and your mind open. Don’t be blinded...
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Keep your eyes and your mind open. Don’t be blinded by filters like fear, uncertainty, pessimism and negativity. Carlos Wallace
Occupy your thoughts with purpose and you will be so...
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Occupy your thoughts with purpose and you will be so busy pursuing a meaningful future there will be no time for doubt, chaos and disappointment. Carlos Wallace
Never be afraid to love. Just be careful who you...
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Never be afraid to love. Just be careful who you love. Carlos Wallace
Love is a two-way street, but not everyone deserves a...
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Love is a two-way street, but not everyone deserves a license. Carlos Wallace
Connect with someone on a deeper level…mentally, spiritually, emotionally…and your...
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Connect with someone on a deeper level…mentally, spiritually, emotionally…and your soul will transcend the height of ecstasy. Carlos Wallace
To be fearlessly vulnerable with someone… One of the deepest,...
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To be fearlessly vulnerable with someone… One of the deepest, most desirable paradoxes of love. Carlos Wallace
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Think of the principle as that precise moment you recall everything that makes you love that person: the number of times your partner makes you smile, comforts and supports you. During those times dig deep and shift your focus from whatever bad is happening today, at this minute, and appreciate every other day, hour and second that person spends being “the one. Carlos Wallace
The seriousness of being part of Operation Desert Storm-the first...
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The seriousness of being part of Operation Desert Storm-the first major foreign crisis for the United States after the end of the Cold War- was never lost upon us. Carlos Wallace
Staring down the reality of war, far from home, asleep...
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Staring down the reality of war, far from home, asleep among strangers, that familiarity, those memories, those ties kept us going; gave us a reason to persevere; toughened us up. Carlos Wallace
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Dozens of days, experiences, and encounters have set me on a path I never dreamed possible. Carlos Wallace
The most liberating feeling in the world is to not...
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The most liberating feeling in the world is to not give the negative opinions of others any traction. Carlos Wallace
Do not waste your life away by wishing for days...
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Do not waste your life away by wishing for days you may not even get to see. Carlos Wallace
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Make a difference, change the game for the better, leave a legacy, be a guide that someone else can follow and make better, and then someone else will follow that and make that better. Carlos Wallace
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Be the start of something that is good, revolutionary and powerful. Everything after that is a bonus! Carlos Wallace
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Following trends on social media will not lead to social consciousness. Carlos Wallace
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My incentive? Making a peaceful spirit second nature. And that is so worth the effort. Carlos Wallace
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You can't be much good to others, if you're no good to yourself. Carlos Wallace
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If you truly love who you are other's opinions won’t even matter. Carlos Wallace
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Door money. It’s a distraction. It impedes judgment. It blurs focus. Chasing the almighty dollar can become the root of all evil, the bane of one’s existence. Carlos Wallace
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DOOR MONEY” To focus on door money means one is paying so much attention to the amount of money they are making at the door they do not consider there is much more profit to be made inside a venue. Carlos Wallace
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People who are distracted by door money, neglect the production and the audience. Money becomes their god. They sacrifice their reputation in favor of building revenue. Believe me; the former is more difficult to recover if lost. Carlos Wallace
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Insecurity is debilitating. It cripples your motivation and breaks your spirit. The condition is NOT insurmountable, but healing will only begin when self loathing ends. Once you learn to love the person you are, there are no limits to the person you can become. Carlos Wallace
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Becoming accomplished at what you do is no easy task, nor is the goal reached in a day. The process is time consuming, requires dedication, innovative ideas, meticulous strategizing and can be quite tedious at times. For many, the ultimate objective is to challenge the status quo, change the game, chart unexplored territory, and set a new standard of excellence. Sometimes hitting those marks is its own reward. Seeing others apply your blueprint to construct their own path to success is even more fulfilling. Leaders are motivated by believers! Bask in the imitation of others. After all, it is the highest form of flattery!. Carlos Wallace
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Never lose sight of the people who are the foundation of the future you are working to build. Carlos Wallace
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If you have the desire, passion and enthusiasm to do something, nothing in the world will stop you. Carlos Wallace
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If you continue to concentrate so deeply on the negative factors you are unable to acknowledge all the positive results. Carlos Wallace
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Now is the time to realize your potential and look beyond disappointment and focus on blessings. They are all around you, if you only take the time to welcome them into your life. Carlos Wallace
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A man enrich his community. A man teach and display leadership qualities for his children. A man by his presence is safety and security for his Queen. The best the thing a man can do for this world, his children and Queen is be a man. Carlos Wallace
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Never apologize for the good in your life. People who try to make you feel badly because you have been blessed are consumed by self-loathing. Wear your accomplishments proudly, be it your career, your relationship, your children, your success. True friends will bask in the glow of your shine, not pray for darkness to fall. Carlos Wallace
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There should always be an end game, or else all you are doing is practicing for an opportunity for which you have no idea of what it is or what it will even look like. Carlos Wallace
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I just follow God's lead. One step, one day and one opportunity at a time. The hardest part is not becoming distracted. Carlos Wallace
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To lead is a privilege, not an entitlement. It doesn't make you better than anyone; it helps you bring out the best in everyone. Accolades don't inspire a leader's vision; they've set their sights on the success of others. Leaders bypass shortsightedness and focus on the big picture. Leaders who always stand righteously never stand alone. Carlos Wallace
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Rewards are not simply given, they are earned. Each of your trials and tribulations increases your reward. You are destined for success and greatness beyond measure. So smile to increase your endurance and laugh in the face of adversity. Carlos Wallace
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We must learn to choose between lining our bank accounts and being accountable for our future. Carlos Wallace
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Don't spend so much time chasing your future that you run over your present. Carlos Wallace
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Once I had been introduced to depression, I realized if I wanted to help my friend and preserve our friendship, I needed to understand what the illness was all about. Carlos Wallace
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Nothing in life is promised. Each day is a valuable opportunity to play an important role in this world. Treat each moment like it's the performance of a lifetime; approach every show like it's your first, respect it as if you've invested years, appreciate it like it's your last. Carlos Wallace
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Military service is not just a vocation. It is a way of life, an attitude that you carry in your heart even after you are discharged. Carlos Wallace
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The word friend is a label anyone can try on. You decide who is best suited to wear it. Choose wisely. The most dangerous among us come dressed as angels and we learn too late they are the devil in disguise. Carlos Wallace
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Some people applaud my no nonsense approach to life. Others say my methods are “extreme”. Where I’m headed and how I get there is between me and my God. So, if you don’t know where I’m going, how can you suggest I’m taking things too far? Carlos Wallace
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It’s one thing to have the respect of your peers in the business. Their opinions are not always verbalized but if you are doing the right thing you don’t need validation. Carlos Wallace
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You own your feelings. You own your thoughts. You control both. No one has the right to any of it–to any of you without your permission. Carlos Wallace
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Testing the wrong person can prove a massive failure for the antagonist. Carlos Wallace
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Never spend more time worrying about somebody or some situation (that plays no significant role in your life) more than you do about yourself. Carlos Wallace
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When I was in the Navy, everyone fell under the purview of “navy gray”. It is the military’s way of reminding its enlisted personnel that they are all equal. Man or woman, black or white, young or old, everyone was navy gray. With God's grace I can proudly say a better understanding of this concept has helped me ameliorate disputes, mend fences that appeared hopeless and find light in the midst of darkness. . Carlos Wallace
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Just because I understand does not mean I agree. Carlos Wallace
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In the heat of the moment, rational thinking tends to elude us. Carlos Wallace
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We live in a world with an ever-growing population. Personal space these days is at a premium. Physically, we are practically tripping over our fellow man. Mentally and spiritually, the divide among us seems to widen. Carlos Wallace
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Don’t hate on someone whose hard work placed them on the road to success, while your envy and ill-intent put you on a path toward failure. Carlos Wallace
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Ignorance is a progressive thinker’s enemy; acceptance, awareness, accountability and action are the tools of the informed; of people who want change and do all they can to achieve it. Carlos Wallace
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Shutting out your problems does not dismiss them. Ignorance is not bliss. On the contrary, it creates an opportunity for those problems to grow. Carlos Wallace
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It's been said that actions speak louder than words. Sometimes, it's what you don't say or do, that sends the loudest message. Carlos Wallace
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Each day, speak as if someone may be listening in and act as if someone could be watching. Do not say it if you do not mean it or know it to be true. Do not do anything privately that would shame you publicly. Good judgment should not cease simply because you think no one will ever know. Everything performed in the darkness is always revealed in the light. The Universe has an uncanny way of laying your life bare. Make sure you can deal with what may eventually be revealed. . Carlos Wallace
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If you promise to love, trust, respect, support and stand by someone no matter what, do not just speak those words when times are good. Live those words when challenges arise. The stronger the love and commitment, the more unbreakable the bond. United hearts will never be easily divided. Carlos Wallace
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One truth that has helped me accept some of the most difficult moments and heartbreaking decisions in my life is that I already have all for which I ask. I am blessed! I am delivered from my worries! Carlos Wallace
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I love what Jacksonville taught me and where it led me. The good, the bad and the indifferent all helped shape me. I may not live there anymore but it lives inside me. It is and will always be my foundation. Carlos Wallace
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From the moment I could even understand what “respect” was I knew it was not a choice but the ONLY option. Carlos Wallace
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Dwelling on a disappointing situation is like walking through drying cement; eventually you will get stuck. Instead make a mental note, picked yourself up and continued living life. #forward Carlos Wallace
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Focus on patience, loyalty, intelligence, greed, dissatisfaction and pride. Carlos Wallace
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Accept that you will not always deal with situations with polished sophistication but trust that you have the power and exercise the will to improve how you cope. Carlos Wallace
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Each day, wake up with a plan. Don’t just approach your days in an unfocused void. That state of mind leaves too much room for discontent, opposition, unhappiness and hopelessness. Carlos Wallace
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When someone loves you for who you are (completely) without judgment, impossible conditions or pretense...your heart awakens, your soul comes alive, your senses are stimulated and you know true happiness. Carlos Wallace
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As someone who has dealt with his fair share of disappointment, I’ve learned the best way to cope with trouble is to approach every situation with eyes wide open; focused and determined. Carlos Wallace
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My parents and grandparents did not tolerate idle thoughts or behavior. If the action did not have a purpose or lead you in a positive direction, their feeling was “why bother?” This is how I was built. This is why I refuse to fail. Carlos Wallace
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Our dedication to charity guides our purpose. The love of laughter inspires our vision. The generous support of supporters, friends and fans along with the finest businesses in Houston and throughout America helps drive our mission. Thank you to those who generously donate to one or all of the charities Sol-Caritas supports. Carlos Wallace
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You should always be your greatest motivator. Never leave that power in someone else’s hands. Once you learn to love the person you are, there are no limits to the person you can become. Carlos Wallace
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If you can train yourself to be actionable instead of reactionary, you will break out of the negative space that is typically furnished with fear, uncertainty and inaction, and move into that peaceful zone of determination, power, decisiveness and growth. Life will become less complicated. Carlos Wallace
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Issues can only be resolved if each person accepts accountability in the problem. Carlos Wallace
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There's "good" in all things. You just have to find it. Carlos Wallace
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It's not the fact that some people disagree with the protests. That is as much a right as the protests themselves. It is the hateful, profane, condescending way some have expressed their discontent that baffles me. How do you criticize actions you've deemed disrespectful and divisive and an affront to civilized behavior with rhetoric to the same end? That's like the devil judging the Grim Reaper for harvesting souls. . Carlos Wallace
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It’s the simplest things in your life that help you achieve the greatest BLESSINGS. None of those things cost you, yet they can bring abundant reward. Faith, honesty and good manners will take you places and assist you in obtaining things that money NEVER will. Carlos Wallace
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Most men can make moves, decisions, mistakes, plans, money, babies, love, war, progress, or even history. Not all men have what it takes to make a worthwhile difference in this world. Substance, drive, dedication, intelligence, faith and values; that comes from within. Its not what a MAN can make but what a MAN is made of that's impressive. Carlos Wallace
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We are confusing making “progress” with eradicating the larger problem. Carlos Wallace
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The company you keep determines how others view you. Identify with mediocrity and you will be labeled sub par. Collaborate with questionable people and your reputation becomes suspect. Guilt by association can end a career, hurt your business and cost you friends. Choose alliances wisely or you may be condemned for someone else's sins. Carlos Wallace
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Before we ask where the leaders are, we should look in a mirror and ask the person we see “Why are you not leading”? Carlos Wallace
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The foundation that my parents and grandparents instilled in me is unyielding, especially the principle that teaches me to keep God first in all I do. Carlos Wallace
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Be careful who you share your personal life with. If someone you confide shares secrets with you, that they were asked not to divulge, chances are your secret's already out there too. Everything is not for everybody. Carlos Wallace
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In the midst of combat, we learned a great deal about mankind and its many different races, creeds and beliefs. Carlos Wallace
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Sharing pillow talk with the wrong people can make a hard bed to lie on, and will surely lead to nightmares in your relationship. Carlos Wallace